Do women really want what they want? - Page 3

Chris H. · 05-19-2008, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by juls

Sorry I disagree, I am a mod on a forum where this subject is spoke about ALOT.

I don't have a problem discussing the issue at all, the problem is with people making sexist statements.

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Originally Posted by juls

I am a woman and by telling ths poster he will be deleted for bringing it out into the open further makes him feel like he is wrong for having intimacy needs. I won't be back. I know, probably won't be missed, but this kind of "screening" is wrong...

Most forums have "rules," if you feel more comfortable on a forum that allows sexist statements then that may be the best place for you to post. Ours may be stricter than others in that regard.

I have a background in the field of social work, and as a profession, we are very disapproving of sexism and racism. This is why my site has the "guidelines" it does; they aren't new, and they've been there since you registered.

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Originally Posted by juls

He came here looking for ways to understand why his wife is withholding and there are tons of wives out there just like his so yes the stereotype exists for a reason.

I hope he finds the answers he's looking for, but I nicely asked him to rephrase some of the language he used on the board to make it less sexist - a request he repeatedly ignored. If he would have spoken about his own problems rather then generalizing them to all females - this issue would have never gone this far.

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Originally Posted by juls

Stereotypes suck yes, but as it is they are still there. I don't see anyone saying anything to a few of the women posters who consistantly slam "men only" about porn and affiars. Is it that only men commit these acts. Blah whatever.

I have said things in the past about it. Admittedly, I don't catch everything because I can't spend enough time on the forums. It also sticks out a lot more when the title of the thread is sexist:

Do women really want what they want?
Do you think forcing us to wait makes us want it less?

The bottom line is, I consider sexist statements no different than racist statements - nobody likes to be generalized about, and I don't want it on this website. Sorry if we disagree.

Chris

draconis · 05-19-2008, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by juls

Sorry I disagree, I am a mod on a forum where this subject is spoke about ALOT. I am a woman and by telling ths poster he will be deleted for bringing it out into the open further makes him feel like he is wrong for having intimacy needs. I won't be back. I know, probably won't be missed, but this kind of "screening" is wrong...

He came here looking for ways to understand why his wife is withholding and there are tons of wives out there just like his so yes the stereotype exists for a reason. Stereotypes suck yes, but as it is they are still there. I don't see anyone saying anything to a few of the women posters who consistantly slam "men only" about porn and affiars. Is it that only men commit these acts. Blah whatever.

While stereo types do exist and often have something behing them the truth is most women are NOT like this. My wife is NOT like this. So all women are NOT like this.

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He came here looking for ways to understand why his wife is withholding

As such he could have ask why his SO was like this and if there are other women out there. It is no different then saying women are not as fast, as strong, or work as hard as men. That isn't the truth but it maybe in HIS relationship.

I too am a Mod and admin on several forums. On ones that I control people have been banned for less. You might feel that he didn't get a fair chance but the realism is if he got away with that then he could or someone else could have done much worse. Also just because no one said they were offended doesn't mean that people were not or didn't pm/email that they were.

It is a shame that anyone would leave this forum, however, I would ask you to reconsider. If this forum in general wants to protect peoples feelings then I would say they would protect yours too.

I generally felt bad for him but I have to admit even as a man I felt offended by him after seeing my mother and wife struggle in a "man's world" in there jobs not because they couldn't do them well but because they had to be twice as good as most of the men just to be accepted. These stereo types can be continued from stuff like this.

draconis