Hi everyone!!! This is my 1st post and I am glad to come across this board on a day like today.
This situation I am in is not abnormal for my marriage so I'll just tell u guys what happened over the last week and see if I am nuts or if hubby has lost interest in me and in being a dad.....
Last Wednesday hubby goes straight to the golf range as soon as he gets off work for 2 hours comes home and plops down in front of the video games and barely looks at our 2 babies who are going to bed in just an hour he then continues to just sit there while I do dishes and get both kids bathed and in bed.
The things around the house he agreed to do for going to play golf was still left unfinished when I got up the next morning. I did his chores.
Now here is Friday...he does not even come home and goes straight out for night fishing. he knows and I have asked for his help regarding baking a Easter cake, I have lots of cleaning, cooking, the kids, shopping, etc to do and he basically shut off his phone and I have no idea what time he is coming home.
It is Easter and holidays are very important to me and I want the kids to feel like holidays are special family times but my hubby actually told me that the guys are wanting to go mushroom hunting on Sunday!!!!
I feel like he never wants to be with me or the kids let alone recognize that I am always holding down the fort while he gets tons of down time and "play" time.
This is very common for us and he just never seems to want to be at home. I asked him to cancel his fishing trip and help me at home and he pretty much said no way! So now I am very very angry and not sure how to keep my bad feelings and resentment toward him from getting into my holiday spirit for the next 2 days. He ruins every single weekend that he is actually at home. He gets frustrated with me and the kids all the time and very easily.
We have been together 9 years and married 7. Our kids are 2.5 and 1.5 years old.
What is going on?? Is this normal? Do u think counseling would help a situation like this.....he started acting this way when i got pregnant with our first and just never went back to the old him.