04-20-2010, 10:13 PM
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: SE Wisconsin
| | Re: Desperately Seeking Advice
This is a serious threat to your marriage and you need to tell him that. You will try to get along the way it is if things don't change, but sooner or later, you'll give up, and then you'll begin to disconnect. Sex will decline (you'll be too resentful and you'll agree occasionally, but you won't desire him, and your willingness to comply will dwindle, too) He'll think the problems are "solved" b/c you quit nagging him, but he'll wish there was more sex. Then, somewhere down the road, you'll realize you want something more, and you will leave him, and he'll be stunned. Read up on the "Walk Away Wife" syndrome, and you'll see yourselves in there.
He has to grow up and accept 50% of the responsibility for the evening shift. You both work all day--one way or another. If he accepts that, then things might improve. If he doesn't, then you'll need to figure out ways to part without destroying each other. It'll be extremely difficult, though, b/c he's still a child and he will NOT want to be left.
When a wife feels like her h's mother, it's a bad sign. Take it seriously and confront it now. Good luck.