I honestly think this varies with a woman based upon where she is in the timeline of a relationship. The very dominant traits that allowed my wife to happily select me when I was 20, now work against me at 40.
When my soon to be X was more interested in choosing a potential father for her kids, my physical strength, intelligence, and strong drive were very attractive to her. Six kids and a vasectomy later, she is definitely more interested in companionship than copulation, and my original skill set isn't working too well.
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Many different cycles and meso cycles. Lets not forget the menstrual cycle either. What is attractive to a woman changes during the month.
Seems one person's "dominant" is another person's "controlling/abuser". And one person's "passive/beta" is another person's "resonable/compromiser".
I think you just have to be yourself and try to find someone that finds you attractive as you are.
The problem seems to be that folks marry exppecting they can change their partner, fundamentally.
OK I'll give it a try. Honestly I thought after you got married you were done with the head games. Thought it was OK to be yourself and all that. I don't know what she finds attractive now. I'm 6' 185 lbs. tanned from years of working outside. I do have some bad frown lines from the sun which make me look too serious but I'm working on those. I might need to add a big old beer gut and a beard to get her attention?
SOME women like SOME degree of dominance from SOME men SOME of the time.
Unless you have the sort of mind that can spend all week looking for one piece of a jigsaw, accept that figuring out the detail is just too much like hard work.
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I love having a dominant man. He makes me feel very safe and secure. He takes care of me and I take care of him in a softer, more submissive, feminine way. It works for us.
I think instead of the word dominant I like the word masculine, very masculine. There are to many men that can't hold a job, change a flat tire or take care of a family that they made. Thank God I don't have one of those and I know that there are a lot of awesome hard-working men out there. Is just seems that because women try to do everything for themselves they don't allow men to be men. They rob men of the their masculinity.
Not me, I love the old-fashion type of man who can work hard, can fix things, loves football, sex, budweiser, and steak and potatoes!!!!
Not me, I love the old-fashion type of man who can work hard, can fix things, loves football, sex, budweiser, and steak and potatoes!!!!
I agree with all of this except I would take out the Football and not too much booze. I hate sports, I am so glad my husband was a nerd in school cause he is So -NOT into sports.
He is a heck of Handyman, and I love that about him , it is so very rare we have to hire outside help for anything, and when we do, it swear they do a lousy Job, and he ends up fixing there blunders anyway, especially when vehicle related.
Women can be like cats. They only want to give you attention/ affection when they want it back. How many women tell their husbands they love them only because they want to hear it back?
Women don't respect men who give them everything they want. And they will keep taking as long as your giving. ( I've heard that from a few women)
Women don't want to be treated like little children but respect a man that will call them to the carpet for being out of control or disrespecting them.
Women will want to be in charge of some things but when things go wrong they are quick to find a reason for the man to be responsible for the problem. Or expect the man to fix it.
I am the more dominate in our marraige. I feel opposites attract for VERY good reasons, one being peace & tranquility in the home. Funny, cause my ever loving sensitive patient easy going husband has always been attracted to the "Rough" females, he seriously is turned on by the whip & chain type. I always laugh at this, not that I am this, but I could make a wicked female Drill Sergant - just ask my kids. And I will say, 95% of the time our marraige works beautifully.
It is true, sometimes I wish he showed more of that dominance in the bedroom (I have started threads over this) but besides this, I have not missed it or longed for it. I simply know I would KNOCK heads with another similar to myself.
He does have dominance in the way MEM describes, not as monkey aggression but SKILL on the job, integrity with people -earning others Respect. If these things can be classified as a form of dominance? Sounds good to me!
He surely feels my equal, I don't believe all lesser dominants/passive types all beg or cry to their mates, that all are "wimpy". Many times he laughs at my "aggression" when I get upset & start ranting about something. He KNOWS how to bring the "calm" back into my world. The Role of the Protector maybe. He is our large families sole Provider. If these things can be classified as Dominant, not really sure. He surely carries HIS load- and does it well.
I have a very close friend who I would call a typical dominate male, we fight alot -cause we both love to stir the pot & debate, he would probably NOT put up with me -and tells me this many times , and I feel the same about him!
2 dominates living together might = HELL. And 2 passives living together would probably be very boring & uneventful.
So the key is : Finding the man or woman who compliments our very differing personalities, who fills in the holes where we are not "that" way -this is a Beautiful thing.
And , I ,being the more dominant do very much Enjoy the emotional/sensitive side of the lesser dominate male, not that I think that always goes away with a more dominate man, but I LOVE the mush, the doting, all that connectedness from the sweet more passive male. He does not need to distance himself from me to keep my attraction to him. (but I do not deny this works for many women) That would probably tick me off accually- then I would have to go find my whips & chains.
My husband is a very nice guy type. More so then most men! I'm the luckiest woman in the world! He's always put my needs before his and I love him dearly. I wouldn't want it any other way or any other man. He's not dominant, but very confident. We're perfect for each other. We live in a very peaceful house. Posted via Mobile Device
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