As to whether a woman wants a man who is dominant the best answer to that I can think of is that a woman wants a man to be different things.
There’s the stable and predictable man she wants who takes care of her with support, security etc. over the long term of the child rearing years. The exciting man she wants to go on holiday with and weekends away and to bring variation and passion into the bedroom. The listening friend she can share her innermost secrets with while never being judged. All sorts of men does the woman want and yes she may well want to be dominated at times while at the same time feeling totally safe and knowing that it would never go too far.
Just like men women too have phases in their lives. And in each one of those phases she may well yearn for a different type of man than the one she is with. That’s why as men (and women) we must be aware that we are continually evolving and changing within our lifetime.
This is s funny thread.
I think this ties directly into the 1990's "guru" mens movement to "regain" lost manhood. There are books and websited dedicated to "making a man" out of a former "whimp".
These men are told that if they simply LEAD, and take control, tell people to f- off, put themselves first... that females will swoon all around them. (and vag will just fall from the sky.)
Do you know why there are no books/websites on how to tell a woman HOW TO BE a woman?
Because
A. it is all BS
B. we don't care how someone else defines what a "real women" is. We know. We just put on our big girl painties and walk on.
I wish men would realize this. Forget the bongos, BFE's, and acting like a "Harvey hard guy". Nobody can take your power, unless you give it to them, and no website is going to help you become a man.
This is s funny thread.
I think this ties directly into the 1990's "guru" mens movement to "regain" lost manhood. There are books and websited dedicated to "making a man" out of a former "whimp".
These men are told that if they simply LEAD, and take control, tell people to f- off, put themselves first... that females will swoon all around them. (and vag will just fall from the sky.)
Do you know why there are no books/websites on how to tell a woman HOW TO BE a woman?
Because
A. it is all BS
B. we don't care how someone else defines what a "real women" is. We know. We just put on our big girl painties and walk on.
I wish men would realize this. Forget the bongos, BFE's, and acting like a "Harvey hard guy". Nobody can take your power, unless you give it to them, and no website is going to help you become a man.
There you go. A fine example of a dominating woman
While sounding well-meant, it really seems that the presence of gamesmanship within the confines of a marriage can really do only nothing other than serve to its detriment.
It really just seems to be one or both of the marriage partners mechanisms to help them in procuring whatever it is that they, as individuals, desire out of their relationship from the other partner, albeit on either a short-term or a long-term basis.
i like the way my H is. He doesnt let anyone push him around, he's extremely competitive, but he's not a brute. He dominates not because he tries too, but simply because he works harder, is smarter, and more competitive then the people he's around.
ive backed off trying to get him to be more emotional. i dont think id respect him if i talked to him like i talk to a girl.
I believe women think they want their husband to be a more emotional partner. Its not in a strong mans DNA. What women really miss is the social group of women that humans used to have in their extended family. Moms, Grand Moms aunts, sisters, cousins etc. Most of the time now, women have few, if any confidants that will support them through thick and thin.
Men and women are wired as differently as cats and dogs. When menn do not understand a woman she just sees him as cold, heartless and mean , when what he is doing inside is loving and worshiping every bone in her body and is totally clueless.
I think there is a lot of confusion due to the terminology "Dominant". I am a Dominant in a committed relationship with a submissive. Since the discovery of our roles, we have both gained respect and a newfound love for each other. By being Dominant, I am in no way abusive, disrespectful, mean or have any less concern or care for my girlfriend. We have been together for about a year and will be getting married. We are both in our 40's and have full time very demanding jobs with a large amount of responsibility. However, it naturally fell into the Dom/sub roles for us. It took a sit-down talk to truly discover what was going on in the bedroom. We were definitely enjoying it, but both were unsure about the direction we were going. I initiated the conversation, but discovered quickly that we were more "on the same page" than we knew.
We both have a great amount of respect for each other, and I would never let anything bad happen to her. She is the center of my world, and I am the center of hers.
Now, the brass tacks ....... do you ladies want to come home to, or be out in public, with a man who cannot take control of a situation? Or, do want that man who is naturally in charge, especially if he can do it with calm, commanding demeanor. Ever see that guy that is obviously the confident, in control guy, even if he is letting someone else be in charge? That is the same guy that is your knight. But that same guy is gonna take you home, let you know that you are the object of his sexual desires, and he is going to show you just EXACTLY how much he desires you, so you might as well just like it.
So, tell the truth, would you rather have that guy, or the semi-sort-of guy that will do what you tell him, when you tell him, and apologize if he messes it up......guess what.....if he is that way with you, he is that way with everyone else, his boss, friends, and that guy the hits on you in the bar, he will just let be quiet and let you tell the guy that you are with him. But imagine, that same guy standing up, telling the other guy that you are his and to step off, then takes you home and reminds you exactly what being a woman is all about. Again, which guy do you REALLY want?
Yes I think a woman wants a mn to show her he loves her by being passionate in the bedroom..take charge and show her how much you desire her..the rewards will be amazing Im sure..
I do not want a dominant man, nor do I want to be a dominant woman. I want to live in peace and happiness. I like gentleness, but that's who I am. I like to please people when I am able to.
I hate being told what to do. It doesn't work with me at all.
I do not want a dominant man, nor do I want to be a dominant woman. I want to live in peace and happiness. I like gentleness, but that's who I am. I like to please people when I am able to.
I hate being told what to do. It doesn't work with me at all.
In this day and age, I would think that predominance by either gender should, by and large, be a thing of the past.
As long as each of the partner's are actively participating in meeting each others primordial needs, that's all that should really matter. Most times that will be indicative of a 50/50 split.
But there will be those times that the 50/50 will vary all the way up or down the spectrum from the 50/50 all the way down to even0/100, and that's to be expected. But that's greatly saying that it will not get stuck at that lower standard for any discernible amount of time by either partner.
In a word, that predominance should always be one of "variability!"
At the end of the day isn't a rugged masculine dominant man what we really want deep down?
Someone who's not too nice, too kind too gentle, not too in touch with their "feminine side", someone who will protect us, provide for us (whether we work or not) and most importantly won't let us walk all over him and knows how to take charge and make women respect them instead of whining that we don't and should?
As far as I know, you earn respect, you make people respect you, you can't just demand to be respected when you do nothing to deserve it.
Depends. In the bedroom, yes. Generally, not really.
I do not want a dominant man, nor do I want to be a dominant woman. I want to live in peace and happiness. I like gentleness, but that's who I am. I like to please people when I am able to.
I hate being told what to do. It doesn't work with me at all.
Ah! But you want your man to be higher drive in another post.
The more dominant (I prefer assertive) the man, the higher the drive he has. In fact his assertiveness is a reflection of his drive. It’s a lot to do with “sexual energy” who’s outlet is not only in the bedroom but in the rest of his life as well. Kind of like a guy with high sexual energy is likely to be creative, a risk taker, adventurer etc.
Believe me assertive men can be the most gentlest of men. They have an exceptional amount of creative ways of getting their sexual needs met. They know that comes mainly by satisfying their wife. And not just in the bedroom, not just sexually.
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