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Old 05-11-2010, 06:44 PM   #1 (permalink)
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At the end of the day isn't a rugged masculine dominant man what we really want deep down?

Someone who's not too nice, too kind too gentle, not too in touch with their "feminine side", someone who will protect us, provide for us (whether we work or not) and most importantly won't let us walk all over him and knows how to take charge and make women respect them instead of whining that we don't and should?

As far as I know, you earn respect, you make people respect you, you can't just demand to be respected when you do nothing to deserve it.
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It's biological. Ask the cavemen and cavewomen.
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Old 05-11-2010, 08:48 PM   #3 (permalink)
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nobody knows what woman wants at any given moment, and if you think you do it will change before you can act on it
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Old 05-11-2010, 08:57 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I want a man who is as tough as me--and that's pretty darn tough. I don't need someone to "take care of me" or "provide for me." I'm an adult and can do that for myself. But I do want someone who isn't afraid to stand up for himself and what he believes, even if it means conflict. That's totally different from the typical "dominant man" stuff I see, but a whole lot more attractive.
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My husband isn't too dominant, but at first it was a challenge. He is from Mexico, and expected me to be submissive to him. Well... it was a challenge for the both of us. Six years later, we now make mutual decisions and we both have opinions about things.

It all comes down to the type of enviornment you live in. My parents who have lived in the US for 30 years are 50/50 in their marraige. His parents.... his father tells his mother what to do and she has to 'obey' him. I made it very clear to him I am not going to be that way. Living in the US has changed his mentality.
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Old 05-11-2010, 09:29 PM   #6 (permalink)
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i like the way my H is. He doesnt let anyone push him around, he's extremely competitive, but he's not a brute. He dominates not because he tries too, but simply because he works harder, is smarter, and more competitive then the people he's around.

ive backed off trying to get him to be more emotional. i dont think id respect him if i talked to him like i talk to a girl.
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yes yes yes

The most important things I have done to "connect" at a raw physical level:
- Stay really fit - not just cardio - upper body muscle - and no - not like a steroidal monkey - like what you would expect to see in an athletic guy in his mid twenties who just LIKES feeling strong

- Have an "edge" personality wise. When she wants to feel the edge she just has to push boundaries. The edge is not a temper tantrum - a screaming crazy person - it is a sharp tone of voice and a "do not fuuk with me" body language. It is a very short and on the mark response to male fitness testing behavior.

Tonight it was threatening to spank her if she didn't sit down and relax while I went to pick up our son from his driving lesson. This is the sweet and sour sauce - the sweet is picking him up - the sour is spanking her if she argues about it. I don't know how that would work with other women - works really well with her.

- It is not whining and complaining and talking about "negative" feelings I have. If I am scared about something I work on making the negative outcome less likely. FCS - man up - you are here to make HER feel safe - if you need a mommy don't expect to get laid very often.

- It is getting really good at something/somethings so when you take charge it is based on skill and ability not just monkey aggression.....

I am very nice and quite helpful. I made a killer dinner tonight. BUT if there is a reciprocity issue or she takes a "tone" with me - then she gets as much edge as she seems to want.

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At the end of the day isn't a rugged masculine dominant man what we really want deep down?

Someone who's not too nice, too kind too gentle, not too in touch with their "feminine side", someone who will protect us, provide for us (whether we work or not) and most importantly won't let us walk all over him and knows how to take charge and make women respect them instead of whining that we don't and should?

As far as I know, you earn respect, you make people respect you, you can't just demand to be respected when you do nothing to deserve it.
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nobody knows what woman wants at any given moment, and if you think you do it will change before you can act on it
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nobody knows what woman wants at any given moment, and if you think you do it will change before you can act on it
What? That's not true!
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What? That's not true!
Swede, you're a hoot.
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Swede, you're a hoot.
I know, and to think she could of had me if she had acted fast enough
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but...but....i...er....wait a minute.....
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But I gotta give props to you, okeydokie for attempting to figure us out!
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But I gotta give props to you, okeydokie for attempting to figure us out!
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I think women are turned on by dominance, but they don't want to live with it 24/7. That is to say, they love a rugged man's man for sure, but they don't want to be controlled for more than a few minuets at a time.

Think: Harrison Ford
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