yes yes yes
The most important things I have done to "connect" at a raw physical level:
- Stay really fit - not just cardio - upper body muscle - and no - not like a steroidal monkey - like what you would expect to see in an athletic guy in his mid twenties who just LIKES feeling strong
- Have an "edge" personality wise. When she wants to feel the edge she just has to push boundaries. The edge is not a temper tantrum - a screaming crazy person - it is a sharp tone of voice and a "do not fuuk with me" body language. It is a very short and on the mark response to male fitness testing behavior.
Tonight it was threatening to spank her if she didn't sit down and relax while I went to pick up our son from his driving lesson. This is the sweet and sour sauce - the sweet is picking him up - the sour is spanking her if she argues about it. I don't know how that would work with other women - works really well with her.
- It is not whining and complaining and talking about "negative" feelings I have. If I am scared about something I work on making the negative outcome less likely. FCS - man up - you are here to make HER feel safe - if you need a mommy don't expect to get laid very often.
- It is getting really good at something/somethings so when you take charge it is based on skill and ability not just monkey aggression.....
I am very nice and quite helpful. I made a killer dinner tonight. BUT if there is a reciprocity issue or she takes a "tone" with me - then she gets as much edge as she seems to want.
At the end of the day isn't a rugged masculine dominant man what we really want deep down?
Someone who's not too nice, too kind too gentle, not too in touch with their "feminine side", someone who will protect us, provide for us (whether we work or not) and most importantly won't let us walk all over him and knows how to take charge and make women respect them instead of whining that we don't and should?
As far as I know, you earn respect, you make people respect you, you can't just demand to be respected when you do nothing to deserve it.