My wife says that I am insulting her as a woman, and it's the worst insult, when I don't eat the leftovers. "Ask every woman" she said.
Well, first I eat them very nicely the first time around. She is a good cook. The only issue is that after being served leftover from the same meal three days in a row (every time another dish, but still), I simply can't look at them.
I don't even ask her to make anything for me. Just not eating it.
Well it will take a long time to "ask every woman" but if it helps I would laugh if someone got so offended by such a stupid thing.
OMG life is so short, who cares about stuff like this. If you don't want leftovers 3 days in a row then how is that insulting to her? I don't get it, is she bored senseless or something, does she have no real issues to get stressed over.
As for being the worst insult, haha no there are 100's of things that would be worse. She needs to get over herself.
I think she needs to cook with more variety. Usually when I cook-- and this saves time during the week-- I cook two different things at once. If it's chicken, I'll make some baked with vegetables and rice and the rest of the chicken I'll cook on the stove with other food for a meal. I also don't throw in all sides at once, so my husband usually has two main dishes plus 2-3 sides to choose from. Granted, he doesn't always eat my cooking because he is a junk food addict but I know that the food available isn't limited.
When you are a cook it is difficult to get over yourself because cooking is sort of like a performance. LOL. Non-sexual performance, but the way people treat you and your cooking means a lot. I even get insulted when my husband won't eat the homemade meals that I pack for his lunch because I think he doesn't like my cooking. You can't change your wife's feelings but you can change the food that's cooked. Have you tried taking a meal and tossing it with other sides, or eating it with a small salad? What kind of leftovers are we talking here?
I don't like leftovers and don't eat them, ever. If she made smaller meals, there wouldn't be leftovers. We had to teach my mom how to cut her ingredients in half, as she cooked like she were feeding an army instead of a family of four.
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Re: Eating leftovers
I like left overs it easier to hear up and serve. My husband is like you, maybe he'll have leftovers once more but not back to back. I don't mind even when I'm working full time. It's who he is Posted via Mobile Device
Easy, my wife takes meal that were made one night uses the left overs to reinvent it into a whole new meal the next night. She does this all the time. I personally like left overs but my boys don't. So this is how she maximizes meals without wasting, which neither of us like to do.
We developed a rating system that indicated how many times in a row we could eat the meal. Some were only a one but some were a three. Once the ratings were known we would vary the meals or portions accordingly.
Another thing we do is to cook different meals the next night and eat leftovers on the first the third night and so on. The goal is to finish everything we cook to minimize waste so we frequently take stuff from one meal and make a different one later.
One of the things we do with pork roast is to make pork enchiladas on a later night. Encourage your wife to vary the meals like this.