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Old 11-20-2013, 03:36 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Hi, a guy here

My wife says that I am insulting her as a woman, and it's the worst insult, when I don't eat the leftovers. "Ask every woman" she said.

Well, first I eat them very nicely the first time around. She is a good cook. The only issue is that after being served leftover from the same meal three days in a row (every time another dish, but still), I simply can't look at them.

I don't even ask her to make anything for me. Just not eating it.

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Old 11-20-2013, 03:44 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Well it will take a long time to "ask every woman" but if it helps I would laugh if someone got so offended by such a stupid thing.

OMG life is so short, who cares about stuff like this. If you don't want leftovers 3 days in a row then how is that insulting to her? I don't get it, is she bored senseless or something, does she have no real issues to get stressed over.

As for being the worst insult, haha no there are 100's of things that would be worse. She needs to get over herself.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:16 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I think she needs to cook with more variety. Usually when I cook-- and this saves time during the week-- I cook two different things at once. If it's chicken, I'll make some baked with vegetables and rice and the rest of the chicken I'll cook on the stove with other food for a meal. I also don't throw in all sides at once, so my husband usually has two main dishes plus 2-3 sides to choose from. Granted, he doesn't always eat my cooking because he is a junk food addict but I know that the food available isn't limited.

When you are a cook it is difficult to get over yourself because cooking is sort of like a performance. LOL. Non-sexual performance, but the way people treat you and your cooking means a lot. I even get insulted when my husband won't eat the homemade meals that I pack for his lunch because I think he doesn't like my cooking. You can't change your wife's feelings but you can change the food that's cooked. Have you tried taking a meal and tossing it with other sides, or eating it with a small salad? What kind of leftovers are we talking here?
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:22 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I don't like leftovers and don't eat them, ever. If she made smaller meals, there wouldn't be leftovers. We had to teach my mom how to cut her ingredients in half, as she cooked like she were feeding an army instead of a family of four.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:27 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I like left overs it easier to hear up and serve. My husband is like you, maybe he'll have leftovers once more but not back to back. I don't mind even when I'm working full time. It's who he is
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:40 PM   #6 (permalink)
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We dont care for leftovers... I'm a chef by trade. I cook at home all the time. I make enough for three and thats it.

except for lasagna.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:42 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Well, considering I do almost all of the cooking... It doesn't bother me in the least if any of the left overs get eaten or not.
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We dont care for leftovers... I'm a chef by trade. I cook at home all the time. I make enough for three and thats it.

except for lasagna.
The lasagna, and chili, and things like that that can be even better reheated as leftovers for sure
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:47 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Easy, my wife takes meal that were made one night uses the left overs to reinvent it into a whole new meal the next night. She does this all the time. I personally like left overs but my boys don't. So this is how she maximizes meals without wasting, which neither of us like to do.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:49 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Left overs??

What are leftovers?

I have 3 large STARVING sons, a husband in a manual job ...we don't have leftovers?

Sorry not much help...

If you guys constantly have so much left overs and wifey gets mad that you don't eat it...why doesn't she just cook less...so there isn't any leftovers to get mad about!
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:50 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Well, I guess coming from a poor family I got used to left overs. even like left overs. It is cheaper and less hassle to just heat yesterdays meal up.

If you guy can afford the expense then I think smaller meals everyday is not too much to ask.

maybe you could even take over some of the cooking. an every other day arrangement might be the answer.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:54 PM   #12 (permalink)
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OP tell you wife she can send me the leftovers problem solved
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:54 PM   #13 (permalink)
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We developed a rating system that indicated how many times in a row we could eat the meal. Some were only a one but some were a three. Once the ratings were known we would vary the meals or portions accordingly.

Another thing we do is to cook different meals the next night and eat leftovers on the first the third night and so on. The goal is to finish everything we cook to minimize waste so we frequently take stuff from one meal and make a different one later.

One of the things we do with pork roast is to make pork enchiladas on a later night. Encourage your wife to vary the meals like this.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:55 PM   #14 (permalink)
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I'm not a fan of leftovers unless it's a favorite dish. I cook what we will eat in one sitting. I'm married to a foodie. No way would he want to eat the same thing 3 meals in a row. LOL
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:58 PM   #15 (permalink)
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maybe you could even take over some of the cooking. an every other day arrangement might be the answer.


We do this as well and it enables us to make things we like when we want them. We each have our standard go to meals that are yummy.
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