Hating housechores but had to do it.

turnera · 07-01-2010, 04:20 PM

It sounds like you need medical help, like NOW.

Aside from that, I often hear that we should do what is important to us, and let the other spouse do what's important to him. And then agree on the rest. If your husband is really into all-natural healthy food for the baby, if it's that important to him, by all means, let him prepare that food! That just gives you time to do something else that's more important to you.

As for not liking housework, be creative. Find a co-op or start one. If you like to, say, crochet, offer to make afghans for other SAHM's for two hours of house cleaning, something like that.

Connie · 07-02-2010, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Susan2010

Now you feel left out? Why? Left out of what? His tirade?

First of all, thank you sincerely for just being there to comfort me. As for my DH ... he did help out after what happened. Concerning your question, at first I feel like my DH loves my son more than me. To a point where he forgets that I am pregnant. I don't know if he is controling or not but he have the tendency to tell me what to do because he got that traits from his mom. His mom always tell him what to do and he always listen and never really talk back.

So to him, telling me to do things for our son is his way of showing love. And at times he tell me to eat blueberries and etc for my health. He is a wonderful father but sometimes he forgets the wife that he had. *smile* So that is the reason for me feeling left out. Seriously, I need to adjust to the fact that we are starting a family. And it should be a moment to enjoy.

For now, on my next appt ... I will definitely talk to my OBGYN about my symptoms. Thank you again. *hug*

Connie · 07-02-2010, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Willow

Have you had a look at Flylady's site? (FlyLady.net: Your personal online coach to help you gain control of your house and home).
Lots of tips for reluctant cleaners! I particularly like her tip of using a timer to go at a job for 15 minutes, going as fast as you can.
If you persevere you will find that once you get over the hurdle of getting organised, it all gets easier to maintain.
Good luck!

Willow, thank you sooo soo much for the website. *hug* I can't thank you enough. I'm actually ENJOYing the housechores. It's getting a little addicting to the point that I forget to cook. But that didn't leave me any guilt since I am proud of my shiny sink. *smile*

turnera · 07-02-2010, 02:20 PM

lol, I never got past the shiny sink.

Hey, when he tells you to eat your blueberries or whatever, make a POINT of touching his arm, looking him right in the eyes, and saying something like "Honey, I love you, but when you give me instructions I feel like a child. Please don't do that any more."

You need to start pointing it out to him before you drown in resentment, with him none the wiser.