Re: 19 years married and she wants a divorce.Help!
Here's a great example of how a woman decides to leave a man, from my experience last night. My H and I are remodeling a building to start a business with a woman; we were applying primer to the new walls; she came by and started talking about next steps; they got into an argument; I kept painting. When she finally left, he looks around, sees all the work I'd done while he was solely concentrated on his argument with her, and started railing at me about how I did it wrong, how he had TOLD me how to do it, and how here I was going back over the work he had already done, and now he was going to have to stay until 3 in the morning to wait for this coat to dry, and on top of that, I had just wasted half a bucket of KILZ and he was going to have to go buy another bucket. Oh, and why on earth did I stop at this level instead of going all the way to the top? Now there's a line he can't get rid of, and he'll have to apply another coat on top of the next coat, just to get rid of my stupid line. What was I thinking?!
During all of which I said not a single word. And I continued to work while he was embroiled in an argument with the woman and her male friend that he didn't need to have, but continued because he's a man and can't let someone else be 'right' over him. So it was ME who was getting something done but, in the end, in HIS eyes, he felt he had the right to berate me to the point of tears.
That is not technically abuse. But I'm here to tell you that, after 30 years of such tirades, I can't get away from him fast enough.