I put my concern here to get a genuine feedback from ladies' perspective.
Many people tell me I look older than I really am because of my gray hairs. I started having gray hair when I was in my early 20's. Now in my early 40s I have more gray hairs than my peers.
My ex-wife used to tell me that the gray hair is ok and I should not dye my hair. Then I believed her and it had not bothered me for a single day as I was not dating.
Now that I am separated, I wanted to get to know women but am worried that my gray hair will put me on the least priority for a date. And now I am suspicious that my wife had wanted me to have the gray hair so that I don't date.
Will my gray hair affect my dating probability? If so should I dye my hair? (I really look young when I have no gray hair).
I don't mind seeing a man with gray hair. But, then I look at inner qualities more than outward appearances. However, many times we have to ask ourselves if we would feel more confident if we were to make changes. If dying your hair would make you feel more confident, then do so. Just make sure it looks natural. I've seen some dye jobs where the gray hair would have been far more appealing.
To be honest I'd think a little less of you for dying it.
But I'm a woman who is choosing to go grey naturally. I wouldn't want to be with a man more high maintenance or vain than myself. Grey is fine on a man. Luckily DH and I are the same age and about the same amount of grey.
Lots of women would disagree with my opinion though - depends what type you want to attract.
I agree it depends on the woman you want to attract. Except for those who like older men or those who have some kind of daddy syndrome, a woman in her 20s wouldn't necessarily be interested one with or without the gray. A woman in your own age bracket won't care.
Thank you for the nice input. I don't like to dye my hair and am happy to hear that it doesn't make a difference to women. I am so confident as I am (with 40-50% gray hairs).
I agree with those who say it doesn't matter depending on the type of woman you're looking for. If you don't want to do it then don't do it.
I wish to add, however, if you do it please see someone that knows what they're doing and keep it up. There's nothing tackier than a bad dye job or a "skunk stripe" especially on a man.
I don't think gray hair is a problem on most men. On some, it's downright sexy!
Your question reminded of the time I arrived early for a hair appointment and saw a man in the chair with highlighting foils in his hair. More than I've ever had in mine.He was a tall, good-looking biker type and I kept thinking of what his male friends would say if they saw him like that. A couple of months ago, my husband and I were at the grocery store and saw a magazine with a closeup of Keith Urban on the cover. We always joke about him because my husband knows I think he's very handsome. Well, up close, I could see all of the salon highlights in his hair. I pictured him with the foils and suddenly,wasn't so hot in my eyes.
Sexist? Maybe. But there are alot of beauty rituals women endure that men should not know about, much less have done to themselves. Just my opinion. Go with the gray and avoid losing coolness and sexiness points. :-) Posted via Mobile Device
Well, lets see- a lot of women they find it sexy and then there are some women who find it not sexy it really matters on the age of the female you're looking for, it matters on your type, if you want someone who is between 20-30 most likely they will want someone without gray hair and if it is someone 30 and over most likely they will not give a damn...
But then there are females like myself who always says
"Looks do not matter it is what is in the heart"
That right there is a fact- and this is how you should take it- if the people do not like you, for who and what you look like then the person really is not worth it. That is a fact.... Because, you should not have to go around changing your looks to please another person. It just is not right- now if you had your hair dyed and met the female that way- and she fell in love with you like that- that is awhole new ballpark... You, are your own self and it sounds like you already have your mind made up and you're going to be dying it. But like I said you may find a sweet, loving person- who is like myself who is someone who does not care on the looks- just the heart....
Sounds to me you are looking for someone who is really young- if you are trying to look way younger than your age- you want to rob the cradle----
So if this is the case I guess you would want to dye it- because I know there are not a lot of females who are like myself and just do not care about this things...
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I don't mind seeing a man with gray hair. But, then I look at inner qualities more than outward appearances. However, many times we have to ask ourselves if we would feel more confident if we were to make changes. If dying your hair would make you feel more confident, then do so. Just make sure it looks natural. I've seen some dye jobs where the gray hair would have been far more appealing.
Okay- you are another female who pretty much is like myself. I was telling him the same as you were. Looks really do not matter on a person; it is the heart, the soul which makes that person. I am one who will not judge someone by their looks. I go for the heart and what the person holds within their heart. My husband now, he is a very handsome person- but this is not what made me fall in love with him and it is not why, I love him so much. I love him for his insides and what he holds within his heart. Now, someone who is looking for someone to be with- should look at themsleves this way and say "If the person does not like me for who I am then forget them" I have seen you and me have posted a lot of things that have been close. Two great minds will think alike :-)
My aim is to date women in the age range of 30-45. I have made up my mind that I need not dye my hair. But it is good to hear more thoughts. I would also appreciate any dating tips as well.
My aim is to date women in the age range of 30-45. I have made up my mind that I need not dye my hair. But it is good to hear more thoughts. I would also appreciate any dating tips as well.
I am glad to hear it- see you, are now listening to us and know yourself- that you would be a good looking person no matter what. And then if the person does not like you, for who and what you are then they just are not worth it... Glad to hear though you are not going to be dying your hair. Good thinking on the point. Now, after you get with the person and feel that YOU, want to change it for yourself then more power to you, then there would not be anything wrong with it. Just do not change yourself to make someone fall in love with you.
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