ok I need to know if I'm the only person with this problem I have always had a very high sex drive me & my husband have been together for 28 years. When we first meet we had sex 2 & 3 times a day. As time went on this of course slowed down I am now 46 he is 50 I could still have sex twice a day but would settle for once. We have sex about once every 2 or 3 days at the most. Problem is When I don't have sex every day my Genital area aches like crazy I have tried to explain this to him saying it might be like a man having blue balls but because I'm not a man he flips out and says that's imposable. All I know is that it really aches. I don't know how else to explain this to him. And I need to know if other women have the same problem. It's like I have to have an orgasm every day or I'm going to explode down there.
Could be your hormones? Get them checked, this is a shot in the dark, but do you think maybe you are addicted to sex and the feeling you get is due to psychological reasons and they manifest physically?
Then again, maybe you are just one of those women that need it more than the average? Not sure....
Either way, if you are having strange symptoms, go to your gyn.
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When we women get aroused, our genital area gets engorged with blood. When I get this way, it does lower my ability to concentrate on work; however, it has just been pleasurable and not risen to achiness. Probably you have a higher sex drive than I do, more engorgement?
I think that the higher-sex partner has to sometimes masturbate. We can't always expect the lower-sex partner to be accomodating every time.
I remember some years ago trying to explain the feeling to my husband and him looking at me like I was crazy when I said it actually hurts.
As another poster said, I believe it is just engorgement, but it seems to stay that way, the only way to get rid of it is orgasm. With me sometimes takes two or three before I feel back to normal, oh well, can think of worse problems to have..
ok I need to know if I'm the only person with this problem I have always had a very high sex drive me & my husband have been together for 28 years. When we first meet we had sex 2 & 3 times a day. As time went on this of course slowed down I am now 46 he is 50 I could still have sex twice a day but would settle for once. We have sex about once every 2 or 3 days at the most. Problem is When I don't have sex every day my Genital area aches like crazy I have tried to explain this to him saying it might be like a man having blue balls but because I'm not a man he flips out and says that's imposable. All I know is that it really aches. I don't know how else to explain this to him. And I need to know if other women have the same problem. It's like I have to have an orgasm every day or I'm going to explode down there.
Before you go running off to the doctor, let me save you a ton of money and headaches and other aches. Don't waste your time on the doctor for this. Almost all scientific studies have been conducted on males. Almost all medication dosages are based on male weights, when in actuality women metabolise medicine differently than men. That is a very recent scientific fact.
Besides, you know your own body better than any doctor who sees you for five minutes. It sounds like you know already that these pelvic aches coincide with the drop in sexual activity at home.
A few more points to put your mind at ease:If a male said he needed sex every day, they would call him healthy. And yet, because you a FEMALE say you need it every day, you are sick? I don't think so. I have the same problem and I have the solution. Go buy yourself some good quality sex toys, like the hitachi. Try to talk calmly with your husband about how you two were active 3x/day and now not so often and you miss that with him. He needs to compromise on your needs. He might be feeling sensitive about the issue,because he isn't able to have as frequent errections as he once did. Therefore, be gentle with your approach. If he gets defensive, then break out the toys. Maybe he might be interested in more frequent sex if the toys are introduced as a way to spice things up. After all, I hope he likes to please you too. Good luck and don't feel bad. You just have a healthy sex drive.
Sorry but, I disagree with not getting a full gynecological check-up. ANY discomfort in the pelvic area could be a symptom of infection, menopause complications, cancer, etc. The discomfort that is relieved by sex could be any of these(or others) where the physical changes from orgasm affect that area, including release of hormones, endorphins, muscle contractions, etc.
It isn't in the normal range of sensations to have a feeling of pelvic congestion, blue "balls", absent sustained stimulation.
If your setpoint of sensations is unrelieved sexual tension to the point of discomfort, then it is not out of line to have a doctor visit to see of there is something wrong.
It's not being alarmist to think that.
In the meantime, definitely find some way to relieve the tension.
first off let me set every ones mind at ease I just had my yearly check up and am in tip top shape. This has nothing to do with a medical issue. I just have a very high sex drive. I have tried to talk with my husband about it but he gets very defensive. He feels that it is his responsibility to take care of this problem and that he is failing me. I try not to let it get to me, but him getting mad at me about it doesn't help.
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