10-23-2010, 02:30 AM
Join Date: Oct 2010
| | 22 years of marriage and he wants out
I have been married for 22 years now, my husband was military for 20 and has been retired 2 years now. He tells me out of the blue that he no longer loves me and wants out. He says that his feelings for me started to change when he got out 2 years he didnt tell me he says because he felt like he could handle this on his own. Never once telling me or letting me know he was changing, up to 2 months ago i thought we were very much in love we have always been the strong loving couple. We have 3 children 2 of which have autism. He would always tell me "divorce was never an option" when we argued. But now it is for him. He says there is no one else he just wants to be alone and do for himself. We still have a great sex life we still sleep in the same bed (mainly because of me). We are in marriage councling but he says he doesn't think it will work since he is only doing this because he feels like he owes me that much. He said hes just taking it day by day and see where things end up but if i ask him right now he would say he wants OUT... Im devestated and shocked, how can a person you put your faith and trust and love for so many years do this to another human being? Its really easy to throw in the towel but im a fighter and i will fight to the end of the earth for my family. Its hard when its only me who's doing this. Any advice is welcomed.