Thank you for the response. She went to her first visit last week and according to her is scheduled again today. As you suggested I'm going for counseling for that exact reason tomorrow. The problem I have is she has confidential information about someone I work with that if disclosed would eventually lead to me being fired. I feel like I'm walkiing through a mine field daily with her erratic behavior until see gets the proper help to level her off so I can do just that.
wow is all i can say, parts of your experience mirrored mine. My ex used to threaten to kill herself all the time. I got to the point one day and just said FINE, I no longer allowed her to make me feel guilty and be emotionally blackmailed for HER cheating not mine.