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Old 12-28-2010, 01:33 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Copper IUDs are wonderful for some people! I am too young to get one since I haven't had kids yet, but I think it would be my first choice after I have children.

Fertility awareness is also absolutely wonderful--it's especially great when used in conjunction with other methods.
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Old 12-28-2010, 08:35 PM   #17 (permalink)
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I know bc pills can cause changes in emotions etc. but I wouldn't discount your wife's feelings as being caused by hormones. This is going to make her feel like you don't respect her feelings. You need to talk about it, go to counseling etc. It's easy to grasp at straws to explain why a marriage is ending but her emotions are very real to her and need to be respected. Good luck to you.
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Old 01-03-2011, 04:55 PM   #18 (permalink)
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I know bc pills can cause changes in emotions etc. but I wouldn't discount your wife's feelings as being caused by hormones. This is going to make her feel like you don't respect her feelings. You need to talk about it, go to counseling etc. It's easy to grasp at straws to explain why a marriage is ending but her emotions are very real to her and need to be respected. Good luck to you.
the women I talk to who have had personal experience with the pill don't feel as though the pill caused her to dream up problems; she is probably really unhappy with the things she mentioned, but the hormones just make them seem huge when they might not, otherwise, seem so bad. Does this seem reasonable?
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Old 01-03-2011, 06:32 PM   #19 (permalink)
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The pill can also change the way her attraction to men works via changes in her ability to smell potential good mates.

Birth Control Pills Affect Women's Taste in Men: Scientific American

This year 2.25 million Americans will get married—and a million will get divorced. Could birth control be to blame for some of these breakups? Recent research suggests that the contraceptive pill—which prevents women from ovulating by fooling their body into believing it is pregnant—could affect which types of men women desire. Going on or off the pill during a relationship, therefore, may tempt a woman away from her man.

It’s all about scent. Hidden in a man’s smell are clues about his major histocompatibility complex (MHC) genes, which play an important role in immune system surveillance. Studies suggest that females prefer the scent of males whose MHC genes differ from their own, a preference that has probably evolved because it helps offspring survive: couples with different MHC genes are less likely to be related to each other than couples with similar genes are, and their children are born with more varied MHC profiles and thus more robust immune systems.

A study published in August in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B, however, suggests that women on the pill undergo a shift in preference toward men who share similar MHC genes. The female subjects were more likely to rate these genetically similar men’s scents (via a T-shirt the men had worn for two nights) as pleasant and desirable after they went on the pill as compared with before. Although no one knows why the pill affects attraction, some scientists believe that pregnancy—or in this case, the hormonal changes that mimic pregnancy—draws women toward nurturing relatives.

Women who start or stop taking the pill, then, may be in for some relationship problems. A study published last year in Psychological Science found that women paired with MHC-similar men are less sexually satisfied and more likely to cheat on their partners than women paired with MHC-dissimilar men. So a woman on the pill, for example, might be more likely to start dating a MHC-similar man, but he could ultimately leave her less sexually satisfied. Then if she goes off the pill during the relationship, the accompanying hormonal changes will draw her even more strongly toward more MHC-dissimilar men. These immune genes may have a “powerful effect in terms of how well relationships are cemented,” says University of Liverpool psychologist Craig Roberts, co-author of the August paper.
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Atholk, very interesting. My ex has been on the pill for 19 years, aside from the two times we wanted children. Is that too long?
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The pill can also change the way her attraction to men works via changes in her ability to smell potential good mates.

Birth Control Pills Affect Women's Taste in Men: Scientific American

This year 2.25 million Americans will get married—and a million will get divorced. Could birth control be to blame for some of these breakups? Recent research suggests that the contraceptive pill—which prevents women from ovulating by fooling their body into believing it is pregnant—could affect which types of men women desire. Going on or off the pill during a relationship, therefore, may tempt a woman away from her man.

It’s all about scent. Hidden in a man’s smell are clues about his major histocompatibility complex (MHC) genes, which play an important role in immune system surveillance. Studies suggest that females prefer the scent of males whose MHC genes differ from their own, a preference that has probably evolved because it helps offspring survive: couples with different MHC genes are less likely to be related to each other than couples with similar genes are, and their children are born with more varied MHC profiles and thus more robust immune systems.

A study published in August in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B, however, suggests that women on the pill undergo a shift in preference toward men who share similar MHC genes. The female subjects were more likely to rate these genetically similar men’s scents (via a T-shirt the men had worn for two nights) as pleasant and desirable after they went on the pill as compared with before. Although no one knows why the pill affects attraction, some scientists believe that pregnancy—or in this case, the hormonal changes that mimic pregnancy—draws women toward nurturing relatives.

Women who start or stop taking the pill, then, may be in for some relationship problems. A study published last year in Psychological Science found that women paired with MHC-similar men are less sexually satisfied and more likely to cheat on their partners than women paired with MHC-dissimilar men. So a woman on the pill, for example, might be more likely to start dating a MHC-similar man, but he could ultimately leave her less sexually satisfied. Then if she goes off the pill during the relationship, the accompanying hormonal changes will draw her even more strongly toward more MHC-dissimilar men. These immune genes may have a “powerful effect in terms of how well relationships are cemented,” says University of Liverpool psychologist Craig Roberts, co-author of the August paper.
As I give this more thought, it could very well be the case. Within a period of months, she seemed to grow sick of me as a husband. First it was no touching, then the couch, then out the door.
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