08-22-2008, 10:23 AM
Join Date: Mar 2008
| | Re: Is it Honesty or Selfishness?
I get the idea completely: living with guilt STINKS. Its like when you are little and you break a vase and you stew and stew and stew and when you finally come clean, even though you get punished, you feel so much better about not having to carry that burden any more.
Secrets can be huge burdens!
I think a person's willingness to say "I am so glad he/she came clean" is directly related to that person's willingness to work through it.
I deal with finances a lot, and the term "financial infidelity" comes up quite a bit. In one of my circles, a majority of people said they would rather their spouse have an affair than commit financial infidelity!
In those cases, I actually have heard people say "I'm so glad they finally admitted it, because we can move on". I cannot say whether the admission was a bit selfish. I think the person just genuinely felt bad, and felt that he/she deserved to take the consequences.