Dating ad
 Talk About Marriage
  The Marriage Advice and Relationship Help Forums
  right
Forums - Online Counseling - For Therapists - Link to Us - Advertise  

    A Public Forum Provided by The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory
Register FAQ Community Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read


The Ladies' Lounge Sharing and support.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 12-28-2010, 11:47 AM   #1 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 2,782
Default Dating ad

If you were filling out a dating ad, how WOULD you describe yourself?

I am trying to think what I would say. Do they have photos? You don't have to describe yourself physically?

I cannot for the life of me think how I would describe myself.
Mom6547 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-28-2010, 01:31 PM   #2 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 271
Default Re: Dating ad

I hope I never ever have to fill out one of those!!! I have no idea what people say or do. Yea, I think a few have places where you can put your photo. I'd probably do that rather than describing myself as "willowy" or "voluptuous" or whatever.

But as far as personality goes, I have no clue what I would say! Everything is subjective and up for interpretation. I could say I have a good sense of humor, and I'd get interest from guys who think dumb blonde jokes are funny, and men who are professional satire writers. I could say I'm intelligent, but I could get contacted by a particle physicist or an accountant or a gender studies professor, all who are in fields that I know absolutely nothing about. I could say I am fun-loving but what does that mean? Going out drinking, traveling, hiking, playing Nintendo?

I am SO GLAD I am in a solid relationship! I could never do online dating!
lime is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-28-2010, 04:22 PM   #3 (permalink)
Registered User
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 23
Default Re: Dating ad

Why not have a look through the ads, find ones that appeal to you and work out why? What sort of phrases do they use? How honest are they about age/appearance (i.e. do they say anything).
marriedyoung is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-28-2010, 04:42 PM   #4 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 2,782
Default Re: Dating ad

It was a curiosity thing. I don't actually want to date. I am married!
Mom6547 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-28-2010, 05:08 PM   #5 (permalink)
Member
 
greeneyeddolphin's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Florida
Posts: 1,492
Default Re: Dating ad

I met my boyfriend on a dating site. I kind of tended to go with how others had described me to myself. Like I'd had a friend who told me she appreciated how I was always there for her to talk to, so I said I was a good listener. I also thought about what qualities I wanted in a man, because I've read where you look in others for qualities you yourself have.

I wrote about what kind of relationship I wanted, and what my absolute, no contact required dealbreakers were: things like I didn't want to hear from anyone who was still married even if they were separated, or that they had to be ok with the fact that I have kids.

I got lucky when I found my boyfriend. He was, and still is, everything I hoped to find. We're in a bit of a rough spot right now, and more stress is just piling on, but I love him, and I know he loves me, so...we'll be ok.
__________________
Wendy

www.wendymillerwrites.com
greeneyeddolphin is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-29-2010, 01:13 PM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Posts: 55
Default Re: Dating ad

First of all, don't ask women, ask men who know you. Men will be far more honest and direct.

This is also because men are the target audience. [Well, not you personally, VT, as this is simply a good rhetorical exercise.]
Zammo is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-29-2010, 01:26 PM   #7 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 4,778
Default Re: Dating ad

Quote:
Originally Posted by vthomeschoolmom View Post
If you were filling out a dating ad, how WOULD you describe yourself?

I am trying to think what I would say. Do they have photos? You don't have to describe yourself physically?

I cannot for the life of me think how I would describe myself.

Is this a moment of introspection?
AFEH is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-29-2010, 06:48 PM   #8 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 1,072
Default Re: Dating ad

Truthfully, I wouldn't know how to describe myself. If I were looking to attract someone on a dating site, I'd want to use words that everyone else wasn't already using. You throw the old "loyal, honest, funny, etc." out there and it's just the same old run of the mill stuff. I'd have to think long and hard to try to get creative. Thankfully I don't have to think that hard anymore, lol.
__________________
The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them. ***Maya Angelou

"But it's only on the brink that people find the will to change. Only at the precipice do we evolve" ***Professor Barnhardt to Klaatu
major misfit is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-29-2010, 09:23 PM   #9 (permalink)
Member
 
Trenton's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Posts: 4,948
Default Re: Dating ad

Mine would start...Strong and Confident...

Ha! I kid, I kid!
Trenton is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2011, 04:07 PM   #10 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Europe
Posts: 526
Default Re: Dating ad

Find a friend who is in marketing. I don't mean education-wise necessarily. There are people out there who have that "knack".
__________________
If you must say yes, say it with an open heart. If you must say no, say it without fear. - Paulo Coelho
reachingshore is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2011, 07:30 PM   #11 (permalink)
Moderator
 
Deejo's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: MA
Posts: 5,081
Default Re: Dating ad

Most memorable dating headline that I have seen:

"Hotter than your ex"
__________________
"I figured out they were serious eventually but was thinking it was ridiculous. I wanted to kick them in the balls." - Trenton
Deejo is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 01-03-2011, 09:36 AM   #12 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 2,782
Default Re: Dating ad

That is interesting! Most people responded with an motive to sell! Wouldn't it be more important to the long term success of a relationship to be accurate? But then, by the same token, I go into every job interview with the notion that I have no decision to make until the job is offered to me. Is that the approach when dating?
Mom6547 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-03-2011, 09:41 AM   #13 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Europe
Posts: 526
Default Re: Dating ad

Haha! That's why I suggested someone who knows their marketing. People with that knack are able to present even the biggest flaw in the best light or at least be truthful without any damage to your image while making you (appear) honest.
__________________
If you must say yes, say it with an open heart. If you must say no, say it without fear. - Paulo Coelho
reachingshore is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-04-2011, 08:16 AM   #14 (permalink)
Member
 
Rob774's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Illy Philly
Posts: 677
Default Re: Dating ad

Quote:
Originally Posted by vthomeschoolmom View Post
It was a curiosity thing. I don't actually want to date. I am married!
Darnit!!!

For a second there, i thought you were on the market!

As for me, i would be honest. I am fun loving, god fearing down to earth person. I am a spiritual person, but i don't beat people down with the bible. I have high morals. I know some of that would scare some women away, especially if they weren't religious or have some shady characteristics about themselves. But o well, it protects me from potential problems.
Rob774 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Dating with ex around? LVS Life After Divorce 29 01-21-2013 03:27 PM
Dating & sex - When to DO it Jellybeans Life After Divorce 202 01-20-2013 10:56 AM
Dating ScaredandUnsure General Relationship Discussion 1 11-13-2012 03:56 PM
For those of you dating again proudwidaddy Life After Divorce 5 01-13-2012 06:49 PM
Dating??? Gabriel527 Going Through Divorce or Separation 6 12-14-2011 02:08 PM

Member Area

Find a Therapist:


Sponsor Ads





Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email:
Name:
Email:




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 08:42 AM.



Copyright 2007 - 2013 © Talk About Marriage