Ladies, were you attracted to your husband because of...

Izabella · 01-24-2011, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by LonelyNLost

I'm going with D. I was attracted to him because of his looks, but also his alpha attitude, but ultimately fell for him when I found out about his sense of humor and sensitive heart.

same here.

there should be E,for a hot and smart husband

moonangel · 01-24-2011, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by 827Aug

My story is complicated. Over the years my estranged husband and I became financially well off. It went to his head and his kind heart changed. The "someone else" was a whole slew of 20 something year old "sugar babies". He wanted the wealth, but have a young lady stroking his ego. As long as they were telling him "how great thou art" he spent a fortune on them and drained our business dry. When his heart changed, his goals change too.

I now truly belief his attraction to me was physical (but that wasn't your question). As a 21 year old woman, I definitely had the look--figure, face, hair, etc. And had the Southern charm to go along with it. For a "Peter Pan Syndrome" man in his forties, I no longer fit the bill because I aged too. It's interesting when I see photos of some of the women he took up with. Most of them look as I did at age 21. Almost eerie.......

But, to answer your question....The attraction to my husband was not physical appearance.

I see. Very sad but it sounds as though you've accepted it and moved on. I've wondered about that...husband going for younger hotter chicks when I'm old and gray...but then again, the way he was brought up, he doesn't care fore the physical looks. Emotional and the family thing is strong in his heart.

Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your story.

moonangel · 01-24-2011, 01:57 PM

Girls,

I'm glad that it wasn't any of the above. It's funny though 'cause I know quite a few people who marry for those things (not talking about the people on tv) and then when things don't go right, they don't know why and won't listen to the truth...anyway...I appreciate all your replies. Thank you.

BoardNMom · 01-24-2011, 02:26 PM

I guess I would have to go with D also. Although he is a very attractive man he is also smart so A doesn't quite fit. However it was not really a physical attraction for me as much as just the fact that he was a hard working guy with great family values similar to mine. I knew he would be a good father and was someone I could rely on and depend on.

MarriedWifeInLove · 01-24-2011, 04:20 PM

D - none of the above.

He is good-looking (still) and extremely smart and definitely not nerdy.

I know what it was - that third leg! HA

honeysuckle04 · 01-24-2011, 09:39 PM

C-total nerd, not unattractive but intellectually stimulating. That has waned quite a bit over the years. He now resembles a walmart door greeter "Hello, how are you?" "Thank you and have a nice day."

honeysuckle04 · 01-25-2011, 07:16 AM

That was suppose to be B not C, sorry.

Mrs.G · 01-25-2011, 07:42 AM

I feel for Mr.G because of his ice blue eyes, his sexy voice that all my friends love and the way he treats me like a devoted husband of the 50's, without expecting to be served. He has lovingly showed me how wonderful and mysterious marriage is. My husband showers me with affection and respect.
The multiple orgasms aren't bad either! LOL LOL
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4sure · 01-29-2011, 08:00 PM

Actually it was his looks at first. I wasn't looking to be in a relationship. When I met him he was so gorgeous that I planned on making him my boy-toy. Before I knew it he was moved in, and we were in love.

He is alpha-hear him roar. He's funny, charming, a man who knows who he is, what he wants, and where he's going. Determined, persistant, a real go-getter. Intense, passionate, a gentleman, very well-mannered. He's gentle and protective with children, and animals.
When he cried when Travis shot Old Yeller I knew I was in love with him.

SimplyAmorous · 01-30-2011, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by 4sure

When he cried when Travis shot Old Yeller I knew I was in love with him.

Who doesn't cry when Watching Old Yeller? To this day, this is the ONE movie I can not bear to watch.

midlifecrisis · 01-30-2011, 01:36 PM

I married my husband because I thought he wanted the same things that I did. I thought he would be willing to do ANYTHING to take care of his wife and kids. Turns out, not so much. When times got hard financially, I was the one who worked 2 jobs and took care of the kids (I worked one job from home and the other at night). He wasn't willing to give up his "nights and weekends". Cut in to his drinking time. I am not one who needs material things, all I've ever wanted is to be someone who cares about me and my kids and respects me. I failed on both counts, now I'm stuck! There are still some women out there that don't care about money, you just have to look in the right "generation".

InKor · 02-06-2011, 02:51 AM

Hi everyone - my first post on this forum.

The first thing that attracted me to my husband was his complete genuine-ness. He seemed authentic, not full of himself. He didn't seem to feel a need to make a show. This made him stand out from everyone around him.