moonangel

A) Physical looks (but not very smart)
B) Smartness (but nerdy looking)
C) Moola galore! (fat and ugly)
D) None of the above

Also, if your relationship failed, could it have been because you married him for A or C?

827Aug

Answers: D and No

I married him because he had a kind heart, and we had similar lifetime goals. Our relationship failed because his heart changed and he wanted to have everything that we achieved together....with someone else. Appearance was never the attracting force. He was a little overweight and average looking when we met.

moonangel

wow...why with someone else if you had similar goals? I know you said his heart changed but that really doesn't make a lot of sense unless his attraction for you diminished.

Trenton

C is funny but I'll have to go with D. It feels like at times my relationship is failing miserably but I'd have to say it's because he's a confusing butt not overly attractive or rich.

LonelyNLost

I'm going with D. I was attracted to him because of his looks, but also his alpha attitude, but ultimately fell for him when I found out about his sense of humor and sensitive heart.

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827Aug

My story is complicated. Over the years my estranged husband and I became financially well off. It went to his head and his kind heart changed. The "someone else" was a whole slew of 20 something year old "sugar babies". He wanted the wealth, but have a young lady stroking his ego. As long as they were telling him "how great thou art" he spent a fortune on them and drained our business dry. When his heart changed, his goals change too.

I now truly belief his attraction to me was physical (but that wasn't your question). As a 21 year old woman, I definitely had the look--figure, face, hair, etc. And had the Southern charm to go along with it. For a "Peter Pan Syndrome" man in his forties, I no longer fit the bill because I aged too. It's interesting when I see photos of some of the women he took up with. Most of them look as I did at age 21. Almost eerie.......

But, to answer your question....The attraction to my husband was not physical appearance.

major misfit

D. None of the above. I was attracted to his sense of humor, his chivalrous ways, and just the pure "niceness" of him.

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MsLonely

My husband has tons of good qualites. I'm not very sure which one attracts me the most, so I think I'm attracted to him by the whole package of him.
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Michelle27

D None of the above for me. It was an emotional connection from the beginning. That emotional connection was there for the first 6 years we were together after we met and I thought I was the luckiest woman alive. Sadly it was some bad news that triggered a depression and possible resurfacing of mental illness that has made our marriage tough for the past 4.5 years. My husband isn't the most physically attractive man in the world but to me, he is because of that emotional connection, which is far more important to me than looks.

Pandakiss

i liked my husband because he was smart, and he was my other half i was looking for. we were kids, so money wasnt in play. he was cute. he was kind to me, and kind to the little guy being done wrong. he has kind words, and dosent think you should be mean to animals.

i dont really know what it exactly was, i just know i found my mirror twin [gross i know] we were inseperatable from day one...

drove our moms insane, and 20 years later, we still act the same "joined at the hip" way.

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Janie

D. I was attracted to my husband because he was on the same pursuit of truth that I was and he had some answers I needed. And he saw me differently than anyone had before.

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Secret1

D. I was attracted to my husband because of his kind heart

greeneyeddolphin

I'd have to go with D. It wasn't any one thing...it was a whole package. He was intelligent, funny, kind, and then when we met in person (we met through a dating site), I was attracted to him physically. Money definitely had nothing to do with it, as he was completely and utterly broke at the time. LOL

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SimplyAmorous

A combination of A & D for me. He never did grand in school, but did manage a few years in Computer College doing fine. It was his kind heart, how he treated me day in & day out & everyone in his life. I found him that 1 special guy who I could be my outragous self with, even willing to wait till marraige for me & he still loved me. These things won my heart over.

DameEdna

I liked the fact that he had prospects and ambition. He was at University and hoping for a career in Accountancy.
Then I liked that we were similar in personality, we shared similar likes and dislikes.
And of course it helped that we liked each other.
Hia sense of humour is hard to find sometimes + he's wayyyy too serious a lot of the time.
But something must be working for us to still be together 26 years later