Just out of curiousity, any one here in an open relationship? I mentioned this to my hubby once and he thinks it's ridiculous. I sort of said it to him jokingly that maybe it'll spiced up our relationship, you know, at least we both know what we're doing. Apparently Jada Pinkett Smith and her husband Will Smith are in an open relationship, but apparently none of them have actually slept with other people.
So, if you are in an open relationship, did it really help your current relationship? Does sex more fun with your actual mate?
Any comments guys? Just don't bash me ok, I am just asking here
Well I was wondering if anyone was going to reply.
I am not in an open relationship. I know you only asked for people who ARE in an open relationship, but I will reply anyway.
I can't fathom an open relationship because I think, like cheating, it can't help in the long run. Whatever problems there are before the open marriage, are sure to still be there during.
I don't think I could gaurentee that I would remain emotionally faithful to my DH if he and I were to have sex with other couples/people. Sex is so intimate, it's the ultimate intimacy (into-me-see). How can it be purely physical? If there were ever a problem in our marriage, it would be so easy to lean on a past sex partner for emotional support. and then, BAM, you have created mistrust and emotional infidelity.
I don't judge other people's lifestyle choices (I try not to) but I know I could never do it.
i also am not in an open relationship and couldn't do it with someone i love.
if you and your husband have thought about the possibility of an open relationship think about what the two of you are lacking that you "think" you might find somewhere else. is sex not as good as it used to be? talk about your fantasies, make them come true together...maybe surprise him one night with a sexy outfit, candles, and yummy on-the-body treats to eat off one another. i dont know, just trying to think outside of the box for you.
if you are looking for an open relationship it could be because you don't appreciate one another the way you used and perhaps if you see what else is out there you will realize what the two of you had. i dont think getting it on with someone else would do the trick, go on a vacation with girlfriends to get away....
again...some options, thinking outside of the box for you, and promise not judging at all!
I'm not into one, but I share the same sentiment as GAsoccerman as I've read in this thread.
The psychology behind it, as far as I am concerned (meaning this is personal), is that I feel elated if I see my wife having fun. I feel very turned on if I see her having an orgasm. This being the case, I'm open to her having a physical relationship if she chooses to, because it will turn me on as well if I knew she was "getting off" with the experience.
Unfortunately for me, she had an emotional affair + physical, so I was devastated. It's the emotional part that bugs me, because I know that I can't "share" that part of our relationship.
I'm surprised no one in an actual open relationship has responded yet.
I have a totally different opinion than many people on the subject. While many people would refer to my relationship as being "open", I don't feel that's an accurate description. To me an "open" relationship means that the partners are free to explore outside sexual relationships on their own as long as those relationships remain casual and without emotional attachment.
I *am* involved with somebody in addition to my husband, but my relationship with him is anything but casual. Over the past few years, he and I have nurtured our relationship to the point where we now have a very deep and strong emotional bond with each other. The spark of an emotional connection was there before anything physical ever happened. We never set out to find anybody, we just happened to meet and realized that there could be something very special between us if we allowed ourselves to let it happen.
Most people cannot wrap their minds around it. To them, the fact that he and I love each other is what would be considered a worst case scenario and something to avoid at all costs.
When I first realized that this new friend and I were feeling things for each other that people who are just friends don't feel, he and I stepped back so that we could think it over and so that I could discuss the matter with my husband. When my husband realized that there was potential for something very special and serious there and it was not just an infatuation, he gave his blessing for us to proceed slowly and with caution. I don't believe in doing anything behind the back of somebody you love, and I also know that if an alternative relationship has any chance of working out, there has to be complete openness and honesty among all involved.
To me an "open" relationship means that the partners are free to explore outside sexual relationships on their own as long as those relationships remain casual and without emotional attachment...
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I *am* involved with somebody in addition to my husband, but my relationship with him is anything but casual.
So in your own words, you are not in an "open" relationship because you actually became involved emotionally with this other man. Did I get that right? I'm not judging, I'm just confused.
With your situation, do you still love your husband "more" than the other guy? Or is he just someone that you have for companionship's sake?
I think open relationships are just odd. Even if you're not a jealous person, how can you be okay with someone else touching and doing more with the person you love. I just don't get it
i think you both have to be 100% in your minds thats what you want in your marriage or relationship. none of this 80/20 or 50/50.
from ppl i do know who were in open relationship - a few have split up and the open relationship was the problem.
Sorry it took a while to respond, I have had spotty internet service as my state was affected by hurricane ike
" So in your own words, you are not in an "open" relationship because you actually became involved emotionally with this other man. Did I get that right? I'm not judging, I'm just confused."
Yes, many people consider it to be an open relationship, however since it involves a loving emotional bond with both I consider it a polyamorous relationship. It's just us three at this time, none of us are interested in looking for anybody else.
" With your situation, do you still love your husband "more" than the other guy? Or is he just someone that you have for companionship's sake? "
I love them both. I can't say I love either of them any more than a parent can say they love one child more than another. I can say that their personalities are very different so my relationships with them are very different. But both relationships are very serious committed loving relationships.
" I have always been interested in poly relationships. Do you keep them separate sexually? "
For us, we do. All 3 of us are straight so the only thing between both guys is friendship. As far as anything like a threesome or something, it's not something we're interested in.
Anyone here in an open relationship?
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