03-03-2011, 02:25 AM
Join Date: Mar 2011
| | Husband and my parents get along too well
Married for seven months now, I live at home. My husband who was in another country moved to mine 4 months ago and while we wait for him to get a job and find our own pad, we live with my parents as itís not possible to afford a place with just my salary.
My parents love him & I am so happy about that. He is really nice to them too; I am able to ignore any flaws because of the way he is with my parents.
As in any marriage, we have our share of fights and every time we have made up and enjoyed the making up sex and that was it. They were never huge issues and hence I forgot and let go of the small things.
No matter how big or small, I have kept the issues between US just between US. I had agreed with him that if/when we have issues that require help from parents or siblings; we shall decide to talk to them together.
Anyway 2 weeks now, I could feel cold shoulders from my parents and since they are normally moody people I didnít think much to it. My husband has been all his lovey dovey self to me.
Yesterday we had a fight and he blurted that he has been sharing ALL our fights with my parents!!! I was gutted.
He wasnít willing to clarify to me what were such huge issues that he had to share. Obviously my parentís now thing I am the bad one and he is a poor guy who is suffering.
My point is if my hubís intention was really external help; why not include me in the talk? Why talk to me and love me like normal and talk behind me to my parents?
Am very hurt and feeling so let down. I have become a stranger in my own home.
On self evaluation I donít think I am such a trouble causer as I stay out of the house 12 hours on work and hardly spend time with parents and him. I donít see where there is time for them to cause so much pain to anyone.
On another note, I know hubby and my mom are talking a lot during the day because they both are staying at home while dad and I work. I feel itís my momís critical and fretting about small things that have transferred to him too. She talks to him about my small mistakes as a kid/ teenager and is feeding him, I think.
Have lost my faith in my husband. I wouldnít dare say anything to anyone about him out of respect and i wouldnít bear if anyone criticised my husbandsí shortcomings.
Any advice is appreciated