Re: Parenting question regarding death...
I would just tell him and let him lead the conversation from there. He might have questions, he might not. He might feel the need to talk about her, or not. Let him guide you, though, instead of you trying to guide him. If you try to force him to talk when he doesn't want to, or try to guide the conversation in a direction he doesn't want to go, it'll only make it harder for him.
I would simply say "I have some bad news. Jane has passed away. We don't know anything more than that right now. If you want to talk or have any questions, I'm here to listen and answer your questions as best I can." Then see where he wants to go with it.
If you think he's going to struggle with this beyond what you can help him with, then I would maybe call around and find a counselor who could get him in relatively quickly to help him cope.
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