03-15-2011, 05:27 PM
Join Date: Oct 2010
| | Re: The Stress is Killing Me
Originally Posted by sadjulie
He is not threatening me, but I am bipolar and whenever stress hits I go downhill. Especially when I see no options. I am not in love with him anymore and don't want him to touch me. He gave me the ultimatum that I had to have sex with him as long as I'm in the house.
He is threatening you if he is giving you an ultimatum and you have made it clear you do not want to be touched. When you get the pay use it to get away and not pay bills. It is vital you get out ASAP. If you have no other options, go to a shelter.
He has you backed into a corner and what he is doing is immoral, coercive, maybe illegal and sick. If he tries to force you it is rape. If you leave him can not legally take you or his own kids off of the health plan and he will be required to support you and his kids.
Since you have no money he will have to pay a lawyer. You can seek legal aid which is free to see what your rights are. You may have to seek a shelter if you have no family to help you. There is always a way and you can find that open door if you keep your head.
I would advise you to leave when your husband is at work to avoid further conflict band possible abuse. Find out where the nearest shelter is and call early in the AM and go there. Does he have family in the area and can you call on them and stay for a few days till you get something in place. These are their grandchildren are they likely to agree with their son?