What's this "circus sex" that has been mentioned a few times? Do I need to dress up as a clown for this or will a magic wand do? (Seriously: some examples would be helpful as I have no idea what that term implies).
Me and my wife have very mis-matched sex drives unfortunately: I need it every day or so and she is more of a 7-times-a-week girl, though we are trying to compromise and meet somewhere in the middle :-)
In reality, I do notice that my "demand" is more regular (every one or two days would be perfect) while hers is much more concentrated around "ovulation" time. Do the women with HD, still experience HD during period as well or is it also "clustering" during certain weeks? The former seems (biologically) improbable.
Edit: The times which really stuck in my memory were 2nd trimesters of her pregnancies (if I am not mistaken, or could have been 3rd): she would go completely insane, not just for sex but crazy sex (I don't know if this is circus territory). She would "attack" me in the middle of the night and do the craziest things in the most animalistic ways. I miss those times. (Again, how does it make sense, biologically?)
It seems she is very susceptible to hormones (she also turns to monster during PMS). Nowadays, I am trying and keep her cycle calendar on my iphone, as it helps me to roughly know how to behave with her (by predicting when it's ok to sexually "assault" her, without getting too much china thrown my way along the way). Hormones can be tricky.
I can't speak for anyone but myself. I'm on hormonal birth control, so I don't have an ovulation phase. My partner and I mostly see each other on the weekends (we don't live together), and I'm always raring to go when I see him. I think it's a combo of 1) his pheromones turn me on, and 2) the anticipation of knowing that we're going to get it on ramps me up. During the week, my drive drops a little bit, I think partially because my brain knows it's not sexy time. But if he were to booty call me during the week, I'm always up for it, and he always has been as well, but that doesn't happen very often, or it hasn't recently, because we've spent a LOT of time together in the last two months--9 or 10 days straight over Thanksgiving (time off work for me), 9 or 10 days straight over Christmas/New Year's (again, time off work), and a 3-day weekend for MLK day and another 3-day weekend for the inauguration. This will be my last 3-day weekend until May, so I expect the pattern will change soon.
When I was NOT on BC, I was most horny during ovulation, and again at the end of my period. But I was still HD consistently during the month, just more so at those particular times.
Now, I use my BC to skip my periods, so I only have one every 3-4 months. I try to time it for when my partner is out of town, or has a houseguest. And I still get super horny towards the end of my period. I'm not sure if it's because of my hormones, or because we haven't had sex in a week or so at that point. Once I reach 7 days without having sex, I'm freaking climbing the walls, BC or not. My partner and I have gotten into a silly fight or two about it, because going without that long makes me cranky. He's learned that I need to be serviced at least once a week to keep me happy, even if he's not feeling particularly in the mood at that moment in time. Sometimes that means that he just plays with me and gets me off, and he definitely makes up for the fact that we're not having PIV sex.