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View Poll Results: Women, what is your normal desire for sex?
Daily or more? 22 18.80%
5-6 times a week? 15 12.82%
3-5 times a week? 47 40.17%
1-2 times a week? 26 22.22%
1 time every two weeks? 2 1.71%
1 time every 3 weeks? 1 0.85%
1 time a month? 2 1.71%
Less than 1 time a month? 1 0.85%
Never want sex? 1 0.85%
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post #31 of 206 (permalink) Old 12-06-2014, 03:55 PM Thread Starter
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My sex drive has always been high. It is finally slowing down a bit but in a perfect world I would still go for it at least once per day. But that doesn't mean the same type of sex everyday. There are lots of types of sex and lots of ways to enjoy intimacy so when I say everyday, I don't necessarily mean getting my brains pounded out every day.

But definitely at least twice per week for pounding. Another two times per week for slow and sensual love making. Two times of maybe mutual oral or mutual masturbation or even one-way oral or masturbation depending on the mood. Plus at least once or twice of some crazy azz circus sex.
I could have written this.

It's like desert.. some days I want ice cream, some days chocolate cake, and other days .. well there is such a huge menu to chose from. But I really like desert.


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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

I'm going to go back and read this whole thread later.

I voted 3 to 5. I think there are a few reasons why women on this forum may have/want sex more frequently. I didn't come to TAM for a sex problem nor a marriage problem, per se. But when you read about so many sex issues on this forum, it tends to make you put more effort into your sex life to make it a good one.
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Women - what's your sex drive like?

I would like it at least 4-5 times a week. Always been high drive.... My hubby is low drive so lucky if I get it once a week....
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I would be really curious to see how these numbers relate to our ages. My drive has changed quite a bit over time.
Mine has been consistent through all of my adult life... daily.
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

Late 40's here and my drive has always been consistent as well. The reality of what I got compared to what I wanted was very different in marriage though.
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I'm going to go back and read this whole thread later.

I voted 3 to 5. I think there are a few reasons why women on this forum may have/want sex more frequently. I didn't come to TAM for a sex problem nor a marriage problem, per se. But when you read about so many sex issues on this forum, it tends to make you put more effort into your sex life to make it a good one.
I disagree with this. Why?

Because I've always been high drive no matter what the state of my relationship is. Most of the women I know are the same, they love sex and want lots of it.
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

I love this thread. Just want to encourage all you women who talk about sex. Everyone needs to hear it and it does my heart good.

I am a little envious. Mrs. Conan and I have worked to improve her libido with good results but I would love to get her closer yet to mine. This forum has helped me to improve with her though and she could be considered pretty normal now at 2-3 times a week.

I think she is improving still. If she goes too long without, she not only takes care of herself, when we do get together, she is almost matched to my drive of 2-3 times a day.

Please do keep up the sex talk, it always encourages, challenges and educates me.
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I disagree with this. Why?

Because I've always been high drive no matter what the state of my relationship is. Most of the women I know are the same, they love sex and want lots of it.
Not everyone is like you and your friends. I agree with her.

I compare libido to a muscle you can exercise. Some women like you have a libido like a heart muscle. As long as you live there is a steady, strong pulse of sexual drive throughout your being. I have always been impressed with people like you.

You could improve just like a heart could be in better shape but unless you are dead, that sex pulse never stops surging.

My wife has a libido like skeletal muscle. It is there and works but if neglected or unused, becomes atrophied .

If, however, she puts good nutrients in, exercises and uses the muscle often, HOT TIMES!!!

I think my libido is like skeletal muscle as well, just one that has been very developed to the point that it will never fall that low.

My libido has not been steady through my life.
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My wife has a libido like skeletal muscle. It is there and works but if neglected or unused, becomes atrophied .
When you put it this way - maybe i just need some "physical therapy"!

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When you put it this way - maybe i just need some "physical therapy"!

LOL! Don't we all!

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Not everyone is like you and your friends. I agree with her.

I compare libido to a muscle you can exercise. Some women like you have a libido like a heart muscle. As long as you live there is a steady, strong pulse of sexual drive throughout your being. I have always been impressed with people like you.

You could improve just like a heart could be in better shape but unless you are dead, that sex pulse never stops surging.

My wife has a libido like skeletal muscle. It is there and works but if neglected or unused, becomes atrophied .

If, however, she puts good nutrients in, exercises and uses the muscle often, HOT TIMES!!!

I think my libido is like skeletal muscle as well, just one that has been very developed to the point that it will never fall that low.

My libido has not been steady through my life.
I probably did not make by point clearly enough. "thefam" attributed the high sex drives reported here to "this forum, it tends to make you put more effort into your sex life to make it a good one"

This form most likely has little to do with our high sex drives.

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I'm going to go back and read this whole thread later.

I voted 3 to 5. I think there are a few reasons why women on this forum may have/want sex more frequently. I didn't come to TAM for a sex problem nor a marriage problem, per se. But when you read about so many sex issues on this forum, it tends to make you put more effort into your sex life to make it a good one.
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

I can't vote in the poll on a mobile. But - I wanted to chime in anyway because I probably represent the women who are complained about often.

I am 30.

I really only want sex maybe once or twice every two weeks. That's spontaneous desire. My H does not initiate at all so it's left up to me.

My desire is absolutely tied to my cycle. During ovulation for a 2-3 window I could do nothing but. The rest of that time...meh.

I notice that I dream of sex often, but once I wake up its like nothing...most of the time. I do not take care of myself at all. I come to him when I want it.

I am on SSRIs (absolutely 1000% necessary for me) and I have some chronic health problems that I think cause my drive to suffer (IBS and pain issues.) Seeking treatment for both BTW. It's just one of those things.

If HE expressed desire more frequently, I think I would follow suit. Probably couldn't keep up with him totally. I know he takes care of himself pretty much every day. At least every other day. He just waits for me to initiate.

I am waiting for this surge that I hear about for older women. I keep looking forward to it...hoping it will hit me at some point!

Anyway - I suppose I am LD.

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I can't vote in the poll on a mobile. But - I wanted to chime in anyway because I probably represent the women who are complained about often.

I am 30.

I really only want sex maybe once or twice every two weeks. That's spontaneous desire. My H does not initiate at all so it's left up to me.

My desire is absolutely tied to my cycle. During ovulation for a 2-3 window I could do nothing but. The rest of that time...meh.

I notice that I dream of sex often, but once I wake up its like nothing...most of the time. I do not take care of myself at all. I come to him when I want it.

I am on SSRIs (absolutely 1000% necessary for me) and I have some chronic health problems that I think cause my drive to suffer (IBS and pain issues.) Seeking treatment for both BTW. It's just one of those things.

If HE expressed desire more frequently, I think I would follow suit. Probably couldn't keep up with him totally. I know he takes care of himself pretty much every day. At least every other day. He just waits for me to initiate.

I am waiting for this surge that I hear about for older women. I keep looking forward to it...hoping it will hit me at some point!

Anyway - I suppose I am LD.

I will run and hide now!
Sorry to hear about health problems. SSRIs can and do seriously hamper sex drive.

If you need them you need them but they can make it so the only time you get revved up down there is with stimulation that can be a bit extreme.

You don't have to run and hide. You are who you are and your story is just as valuable as anyone else.
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When you put it this way - maybe i just need some "physical therapy"!

I have read that many women have responsive libidos. The more good sex they have with a man, the more they want sex. so maybe a lot of "physical therapy" would be a good thing.

I've also read that having sex 2 times a week for a year is equivalent exercise to running 90 miles a year. So, it's a great exercise program. Why pay for a gym and use machines when there is a much better way to get that workout.
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Good god where do you horny women come from?
I don't think that I read that sentence the way you intended it.
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