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View Poll Results: Women, what is your normal desire for sex?
Daily or more? 22 17.05%
5-6 times a week? 16 12.40%
3-5 times a week? 52 40.31%
1-2 times a week? 28 21.71%
1 time every two weeks? 2 1.55%
1 time every 3 weeks? 3 2.33%
1 time a month? 2 1.55%
Less than 1 time a month? 1 0.78%
Never want sex? 3 2.33%
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post #61 of 213 (permalink) Old 12-07-2014, 09:41 AM
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So 80% of all women who have responded apparantley want it several times a week. I would guess that in reality only maybe 20% want it that often(if we are talking average women).
Moops - if you're going to make sweeping generalizations like this (cuz you make a lot of them) you need to back that sh*t up with some data.


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I disagree with this. Why?

Because I've always been high drive no matter what the state of my relationship is. Most of the women I know are the same, they love sex and want lots of it.
I'm a guy, and that's the way i am, and that's what i thought was normal. However, It sure wasn't with my x wife. Everything had to be perfect for her to be in the mood. Someone wrote(perhaps you), that they are always on and have to be turned off to not want sex. I think it was the opposite with my x. I believe she was mostly off and had to be turned on.

Something else: It has been written here how women enjoy the entire sexual experience, not just an orgasm. I was like that, but my x told me once that she thought kissing was a "weak act" when you were having sex. In other words, why kill time with kissing when you're having sex?

I noticed someone said they liked sex several times a day on vacation. I could go for a week and was lucky to get it once.

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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

I like FW's answer. I MIGHT be a daily girl if two or three days were quickies. If left to my own devices, I masturbate in the shower daily. I can get off in three minutes that way and I like that cuz it fits nicely in my morning routine before work and I can go about doing other things. If I had a partner who was willing to eat me out two or three times a week as a stand-alone activity (as in I don't reciprocate right that minute but maybe later that evening or later in the week) and he could get me off in three minutes, I would definitely be an every day girl.

I would also like a nice pounding twice a week or so, and circus sex once a week. But during the work week, I want sex, I just want it to be relatively quick.

On vacation - three times a day, every day.

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Kinsey has all kinds of interesting numbers on partnered sex, masturbation, fantasies, and desires that don't have the bias problems of a self selected poll on a marriage web site. Happy reading.
A lot of the Kinsey data is old and out of date.

And doesn't it strike you as just a wee bit odd that the reported frequencies for married men and women are so disparate? Could it be that there are challenges with such self-reported data?
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Cletus you should read that book recommended in another thread What Do Women Want? The Kinsey links may be accurate in as far as how women answered the questions, but there is more to the story. Basically it boils down to mating in captivity being a boner killer for women. My guess is that couples (especially in our generation and before) do not work at keeping the sex from getting crappy and that's why many women want less of it.

This would not really apply to your wife though as she just seems to be not very sexual, period, and was always that way.
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I'm a guy, and that's the way i am, and that's what i thought was normal. However, It sure wasn't with my x wife. Everything had to be perfect for her to be in the mood. Someone wrote(perhaps you), that they are always on and have to be turned off to not want sex. I think it was the opposite with my x. I believe she was mostly off and had to be turned on.

Something else: It has been written here how women enjoy the entire sexual experience, not just an orgasm. I was like that, but my x told me once that she thought kissing was a "weak act" when you were having sex. In other words, why kill time with kissing when you're having sex?

I noticed someone said they liked sex several times a day on vacation. I could go for a week and was lucky to get it once.
I think sex without kissing is weird. Kissing turns me on and can be so hot during sex, so, she is not a representative sample.

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A lot of the Kinsey data is old and out of date.

And doesn't it strike you as just a wee bit odd that the reported frequencies for married men and women are so disparate? Could it be that there are challenges with such self-reported data?
Then by all means, point us to a better study. You must have some data driven rationale for believing this data to be generally inaccurate. As interesting as it might be to ask, a poll here certainly won't be it. Most of the columns in the Kinsey data are self consistent, and the question asked wasn't "have you had vaginal sex with your partner".

Compare the masturbation numbers between men and women, which are strikingly different. Was there a specific result from the Kinsey data you didn't agree with?

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The female libido and 'the two-year itch' - Macleans.ca

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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

Here's a discussion of the attempt to answer the question of the comparative sex drives of men vs. women. It is not a study itself, but a discussion about the many studies that have been used to attempt to answer some of these questions, with links to peer reviewed journal articles and meta-analysis of dozens of studies.

Take from it what you will. I don't care what the answer is as long as it's supportable by data.

Do men really have higher sex drives than women?
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Yes there are women who were taught that being turned on it dirty. What a shame.


I've done the "yuke" or "yikes" thing when hot scenes some on the TV.. when my kids are around, especially my sons. It's not that I think it's dirty, it's that I don't like it when my son's are in the room with me. It embarrasses them too.
Yeah. Same here. Something steamy would surprise us and was not appropriate for family viewing.

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Here's a discussion of the attempt to answer the question of the comparative sex drives of men vs. women. It is not a study itself, but a discussion about the many studies that have been used to attempt to answer some of these questions, with links to peer reviewed journal articles and meta-analysis of dozens of studies.

Take from it what you will. I don't care what the answer is as long as it's supportable by data.

Do men really have higher sex drives than women?
The problem is that much of the data that "proves" men are more sexual comes from some pretty faulty studies. For example, the oft-repeated truism that men are more into random sexual encounters comes from a study that was conducted in the 1970s that involved going up to random strangers on the street and asking them bluntly if they want sex.

That study has more holes in it than a sieve, and yet is still cited in support of the greater sexual openness of men.

In contrast, there are studies that show more overlap between and variety within the genders than such truisms would support:

http://www.psych.rochester.edu/peopl...sReis_2012.pdf

Also, that we need to be careful when we theorize the explanation for observed statistical differences:
A meta-analytic review of research on gender differences in sexuali... - PubMed - NCBI
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To me, this thread was just a fun way to ask TAM's female participants what their desire for sex was.

I don't see why some folks need to "negate" the results and comments.
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To me, this thread was just a fun way to ask TAM's female participants what their desire for sex was.

I don't see why some folks need to "negate" the results and comments.
Exactly...

I think that some of the posts are from men who are wondering why these results are so different from their experiences with their wives and gfs.

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To me, this thread was just a fun way to ask TAM's female participants what their desire for sex was.

I don't see why some folks need to "negate" the results and comments.
Yes.

IMHO I think there are some men that are scared of female sexuality and/or of their own. Far easier to say that it is not "normal" for women to enjoy sex that admit their own shortcomings.
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