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View Poll Results: Women, what is your normal desire for sex?
Daily or more? 22 18.80%
5-6 times a week? 15 12.82%
3-5 times a week? 47 40.17%
1-2 times a week? 26 22.22%
1 time every two weeks? 2 1.71%
1 time every 3 weeks? 1 0.85%
1 time a month? 2 1.71%
Less than 1 time a month? 1 0.85%
Never want sex? 1 0.85%
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post #121 of 206 (permalink) Old 12-13-2014, 03:00 AM
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

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I don't initiate any more because I know my husband doesn't want it. In fact I never even touch him or hug him any more in case this is misconstrued as me wanting sex.

As for the poll, I've always been HD but, now in my mid fifies, I know 3 - 5 times a week would be enough for me. Sadly, we have no sex life and last had (unsatisfying) sex at the beginning of September. That was after a gap of 6 weeks and another gap of 6 weeks before that. I've given up totally on our sex life.
Sorry doobie. That sounds like there's several issues all meshed together that make it difficult to even know how to fix. First the sex has to be satisfying but for that you (he) have to figure out why it's not, and then if you get past that then if he's LD, it's still a problem. The HD/LD incompatibilities is a nightmare for so many people it seems.


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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

We average about four times a week now that we have two kids. It can be tricky with a 2 and 10 year old to do it everyday in our small little humble home (2BDRMS, One bath, 4 People!). I also find I get horny during the day and he's at work so have to take care of business so to speak during nap time probably two or three times a week.

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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

With my current husband, never or less than once a month. Ideally, I would like to one day have a partner I feel safe with and have sex twice a week or so. That seems moderate, not too much and not too little (in my opinion).
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

My drive has always been very low - before I met my SO, once a month was kind of a good month.

Now I make an effort to have it a lot more than that, but it's not my natural inclination. Don't think it ever will be.
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

This is an interesting thread. I hope we hear from more of you ladies.
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post #126 of 206 (permalink) Old 12-27-2014, 06:47 PM
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

the results of this poll are impressive.

I'm a man and for the longest time I would have said at least once per day would be my ideal.

Now after having sex a total of 18 times last year and 16 times this year, I have really felt my drive drop off. I think twice a week would be good for me now. I really can't stand the amount of emotional energy sex requires from me at this point.
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post #127 of 206 (permalink) Old 12-28-2014, 10:00 PM
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

I'm fine with once or twice a week and so is my husband, if he wanted sex more often then I would be fine with that too. We cuddle, kiss and hold each other every night and weekend mornings and I enjoy that more that the sex. I don't think about sex or feel a desire until I'm laying with my husband. I think a lot of women are like that from what I have read.
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

I want to have sex as much as possible. In the morning. In the middle of the night. Any time of day. I am so HD it's not even funny. I need someone who doesn't mind spending most of our time together doing that. lol
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

At minimum once a week. That's assuming we are very busy and tired. Otherwise, several times a week. I also need a lot of kink. I've never been any other way, either. I've been HD and kinky since I started having sex. Even when I hated my ex husband, I still wanted to have sex often.

I look at porn, I read erotica, I think about sex, almost daily when I'm not at the level of stress and depression I'm at right now. I even have an x-rated Tumblr blog that, until recently, I visited multiple times a day. Hubby has one too and it was fun to reblog photos knowing the other would see it when they logged on. It was a great way for us (especially being long distance) to say "here's an idea I like." We're both visual people so photos are very helpful in keeping our minds focused on sex.

I realize I'm an exception to what seems to be the norm. I love sex, porn, and I'm kinky as hell. Maybe I should have been a guy lol
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

with my husband maybe non to once a month. I voted 3-5 times a week because I still long for it a lot. If I were to meet someone I'm comfortable with the scale will go to daily or more.


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With my current husband, never or less than once a month. Ideally, I would like to one day have a partner I feel safe with and have sex twice a week or so. That seems moderate, not too much and not too little (in my opinion).
Are you thinking about divorcing, at this point, Vanille? Or, can you guys get to 2x a week or so?
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I'd have to be dead not to want to have sex. I'm HD, always have been. I love sex and would have it every day if I could!!

Long, slow, tender, pounding, mix it up a bit and to the fun!!

*runs off to find hubby*
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

I voted 3-5. Or maybe I should have voted more, but I think am more of a normal D than a HD. I only think about sex if H starts sending saucy messages, but not generally on my own.
I really would like to Up my D
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

Wish my wife had the attitude of the ladies on here - I hear about how we should maybe have sex soon, followed by her complaining about how bad her headache is, how tired she is, etc. May explain why we've had sex three times in four years.

Of course, if she read some of you on here, she would comment on how you're all freaks and not normal - how you just don't understand how hard it is with two little kids in the house, etc.
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Re: Women - what's your sex drive like?

More of a hockey stick than a bell curve, I'd say.
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