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Women, what is your normal desire for sex?

  • Daily or more?

    Votes: 50 21.0%
  • 5-6 times a week?

    Votes: 25 10.5%
  • 3-5 times a week?

    Votes: 80 33.6%
  • 1-2 times a week?

    Votes: 57 23.9%
  • 1 time every two weeks?

    Votes: 5 2.1%
  • 1 time every 3 weeks?

    Votes: 3 1.3%
  • 1 time a month?

    Votes: 5 2.1%
  • Less than 1 time a month?

    Votes: 6 2.5%
  • Never want sex?

    Votes: 7 2.9%

Women - what's your sex drive like?

83K views 402 replies 141 participants last post by  Married but Happy 
#1 ·
Only want women to answer the poll.

Answer what you would like for the frequency of sex, not how much you may or may not being it at this time.

If you are man, please do not answer the poll. But of course you are free to post.
 
#13 ·
My sex drive has always been high. It is finally slowing down a bit but in a perfect world I would still go for it at least once per day. But that doesn't mean the same type of sex everyday. There are lots of types of sex and lots of ways to enjoy intimacy so when I say everyday, I don't necessarily mean getting my brains pounded out every day.

But definitely at least twice per week for pounding. Another two times per week for slow and sensual love making. Two times of maybe mutual oral or mutual masturbation or even one-way oral or masturbation depending on the mood. Plus at least once or twice of some crazy azz circus sex.
 
#31 · (Edited)
:iagree: I could have written this.

It's like desert.. some days I want ice cream, some days chocolate cake, and other days .. well there is such a huge menu to chose from. But I really like desert. :D
 
#14 ·
Answer what you would like for the frequency of sex, not how much you may or may not being it at this time.
Even though we are a little less than this.. I know he'd say the same as me... we'd both choose Daily to 5-6 times a week ....just makes you feel YOUNG & vibrant.. kinda like this...



5 yrs ago I would have answered 3 times a day... that was TOO HIGH, what was wrong with me!@#$... Frustrating when he couldn't keep up.. this has so much passed...but I'll never forget this time in our lives...I turned up the heat..... we tried everything, anything to keep the novelty going.... I was pushing his limits!! ...even caused him some performance pressure ...yet he never pushed me away , even told me to put my toys away & come to him.. I don't think I ever felt so loved in that moment.
 
#32 ·
I'm going to go back and read this whole thread later.

I voted 3 to 5. I think there are a few reasons why women on this forum may have/want sex more frequently. I didn't come to TAM for a sex problem nor a marriage problem, per se. But when you read about so many sex issues on this forum, it tends to make you put more effort into your sex life to make it a good one.
 
#36 ·
I disagree with this. Why?

Because I've always been high drive no matter what the state of my relationship is. Most of the women I know are the same, they love sex and want lots of it.
 
#37 ·
I love this thread. Just want to encourage all you women who talk about sex. Everyone needs to hear it and it does my heart good.

I am a little envious. Mrs. Conan and I have worked to improve her libido with good results but I would love to get her closer yet to mine. This forum has helped me to improve with her though and she could be considered pretty normal now at 2-3 times a week.

I think she is improving still. If she goes too long without, she not only takes care of herself, when we do get together, she is almost matched to my drive of 2-3 times a day.

Please do keep up the sex talk, it always encourages, challenges and educates me.
 
#42 ·
I can't vote in the poll on a mobile. But - I wanted to chime in anyway because I probably represent the women who are complained about often.

I am 30.

I really only want sex maybe once or twice every two weeks. That's spontaneous desire. My H does not initiate at all so it's left up to me.

My desire is absolutely tied to my cycle. During ovulation for a 2-3 window I could do nothing but. The rest of that time...meh.

I notice that I dream of sex often, but once I wake up its like nothing...most of the time. I do not take care of myself at all. I come to him when I want it.

I am on SSRIs (absolutely 1000% necessary for me) and I have some chronic health problems that I think cause my drive to suffer (IBS and pain issues.) Seeking treatment for both BTW. It's just one of those things.

If HE expressed desire more frequently, I think I would follow suit. Probably couldn't keep up with him totally. I know he takes care of himself pretty much every day. At least every other day. He just waits for me to initiate.

I am waiting for this surge that I hear about for older women. I keep looking forward to it...hoping it will hit me at some point!

Anyway - I suppose I am LD.

I will run and hide now!
 
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