I am a daily kind of woman. Getting it now but in my past marriage, well I can't be bothered saying but was very sexless due to an emotionally stunted husband.
My preference is everyday. Reality is 5 times a week for me and at the least one orgasm a day for my husband (oral in addition to sex). He gets more than me but I'm okay with that for the moment.
At 43 I'm horny all the time so my answer is daily but if you asked me the last time I had sex or the last time my husband kissed me the answer would be a long long time ago.
My sex drive has always been high. It is finally slowing down a bit but in a perfect world I would still go for it at least once per day. But that doesn't mean the same type of sex everyday. There are lots of types of sex and lots of ways to enjoy intimacy so when I say everyday, I don't necessarily mean getting my brains pounded out every day.
But definitely at least twice per week for pounding. Another two times per week for slow and sensual love making. Two times of maybe mutual oral or mutual masturbation or even one-way oral or masturbation depending on the mood. Plus at least once or twice of some crazy azz circus sex.
It's like desert.. some days I want ice cream, some days chocolate cake, and other days .. well there is such a huge menu to chose from. But I really like desert.
Even though we are a little less than this.. I know he'd say the same as me... we'd both choose Daily to 5-6 times a week ....just makes you feel YOUNG & vibrant.. kinda like this...
5 yrs ago I would have answered 3 times a day... that was TOO HIGH, what was wrong with me!@#$... Frustrating when he couldn't keep up.. this has so much passed...but I'll never forget this time in our lives...I turned up the heat..... we tried everything, anything to keep the novelty going.... I was pushing his limits!! ...even caused him some performance pressure ...yet he never pushed me away , even told me to put my toys away & come to him.. I don't think I ever felt so loved in that moment.
I don't think these results represent reality. Women who read forums and threads like these are likely more intrested in sex than the average woman so therefore the results get skewed.
Most normal women do not want sex 3-5 times a week or more.
Possibly, but my wife has never been on a forum and she fits into the 3-5 times a week category.
Poor thing, I'm injured right now and sex would just about kill me. I looked into her eyes last night and said 'you're horny as hell aren't you?" Her response softly "Yes"
Pulled out the vibes and an hour later she felt fine.
Another "daily" preference here . I come close most weeks, probably 5-6 times, but sometimes life gets in the way of that goal! Posted via Mobile Device
I voted 3-5 times a week but unfortunately it doesnt happen as often as I would like. Our sex life is very situational depending on our everyday life. Sometimes more tired, busier or more stressful then other times. But I keep saying quality over quantity right!
I'm going to go back and read this whole thread later.
I voted 3 to 5. I think there are a few reasons why women on this forum may have/want sex more frequently. I didn't come to TAM for a sex problem nor a marriage problem, per se. But when you read about so many sex issues on this forum, it tends to make you put more effort into your sex life to make it a good one.
Because I've always been high drive no matter what the state of my relationship is. Most of the women I know are the same, they love sex and want lots of it.
Late 40's here and my drive has always been consistent as well. The reality of what I got compared to what I wanted was very different in marriage though.
I love this thread. Just want to encourage all you women who talk about sex. Everyone needs to hear it and it does my heart good.
I am a little envious. Mrs. Conan and I have worked to improve her libido with good results but I would love to get her closer yet to mine. This forum has helped me to improve with her though and she could be considered pretty normal now at 2-3 times a week.
I think she is improving still. If she goes too long without, she not only takes care of herself, when we do get together, she is almost matched to my drive of 2-3 times a day.
Please do keep up the sex talk, it always encourages, challenges and educates me.
I can't vote in the poll on a mobile. But - I wanted to chime in anyway because I probably represent the women who are complained about often.
I am 30.
I really only want sex maybe once or twice every two weeks. That's spontaneous desire. My H does not initiate at all so it's left up to me.
My desire is absolutely tied to my cycle. During ovulation for a 2-3 window I could do nothing but. The rest of that time...meh.
I notice that I dream of sex often, but once I wake up its like nothing...most of the time. I do not take care of myself at all. I come to him when I want it.
I am on SSRIs (absolutely 1000% necessary for me) and I have some chronic health problems that I think cause my drive to suffer (IBS and pain issues.) Seeking treatment for both BTW. It's just one of those things.
If HE expressed desire more frequently, I think I would follow suit. Probably couldn't keep up with him totally. I know he takes care of himself pretty much every day. At least every other day. He just waits for me to initiate.
I am waiting for this surge that I hear about for older women. I keep looking forward to it...hoping it will hit me at some point!
I want to participate in this poll, but my answer doesn't neatly fall into any of the allotted answers. So I'll have to debate getting together the emotional fortitude to make a response.
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