Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Central Virginia
Re: What a Strong Independant Wife Wants/Needs from her husband...
Well first, quit trying to guess or ask strangers. Ask her. If she is truly independent, she will know you cannot read her mind, and she'll be happy to tell you. Also, do not be needy--her strength may make you think that is ok, but it isn't. Strong people admire and respect others who are strong, too. They have compassion for those who have a reason to be needy (children, people who are ill, etc.), but they do not have a lot of compassion for adults who choose to act dependent.
Be fun and interesting. Playfulness is good, but also be willing (and prepared) to have intellectually challenging conversations--keep up on the news, etc.
Claim "ownership" of activities about 1/2 the time--you make the plans and she gets to tag along for the fun. She will grow tired of always having to be responsible for YOUR entertainment (that's a sign of dependency on your part).
Set challenges for yourself and work to meet them. She'll respect and admire that.
These are just some ideas off the cuff. Good luck!