A gal pal and I want to go out some time for a "girls night out". But I know my husband. He will say he's fine with it, but I know better. We have been married 25 years and I can read him like a book! He has an attitude shift,(its written all over his face) gets sullen, doesn't even say "have a good time" (of course he says nothing is wrong) My husband and I have gone out together plenty of times. I don't get to go out with friends very often. I just get tired of him acting like a horses rear end when it comes to this. I think the problem is that he doesn't have any guy pals himself. He doesn't think its all that important.(don't believe that one for a second). Any ideas on how to deal with this?
maybe if you go out then come home and jump his bones when you get back, he may look forward to your 'girls night outs'.
just talk with him and make sure he doesnt think you are wanting to go out to be with someone else.
It's very important for individuals to have their own time for themselves, even him! I find it kind of offputting that he doesn't have any friends. I'm a loner myself and even I know a friend or two to hang out with once in a while. Maybe you can suggest an activity that he can do while you go out? Or if you're going to a club or whatever that he can tag along? He will probably dislike it so much the first time he won't want to do it again. The bottom line for him is everybody needs some personal freedom to exist as themselves and not just as husband or wife or mother or father or whatever, and if he truly loves you he'll work with you to find a way to reach that middle ground.
The bottom line for him is the fact that guys will hit on you and you will turn them a way, but the one that is so cut and makes you giggle...thats the one he's worried about.
I think girls day outs are great and aggree with Ava but no good will come to going out to clubs were drinking is invloved and the protection from all the vampires is at home. Stay outof this darkness.
Granted I can understand the thrill of getting flirted on but some times and most always gets addictive and out of hand.
I suggest you stay in the day light and keep away from clubs if you want to drink and dance do it with your man.
Also let him know that if he doesn't take you clubing and dancing some one else will so tell him to get off his a@@ b/c you want him and only him to flirt and make you laugh with thoses corny pick up lines.
the_guy, I just went out to a great club the other night with my friend (haven't been to a club in 2 years before this), my husband not only encouraged me but said "get ya freak on" LOL because he *trusts me*. A ridiculously good looking guy offered to buy me a drink and I immediately said "I'm married". I even danced with guys (no touching lol) as long as they knew I had a husband and I was not interested in doing anything. If you don't have a marriage with basic trust you don't have much. And we women can handle ourselves with the vampires
I can understand where you're coming from, and some women are less trustworthy than others, or if they're in relationships where they feel neglected they may be more prone to flirtation. For me it's just absolutely not a problem. But that may be because I have always had a lot of platonic male friends. So I guess it depends on the woman. Ladies if you think you might be tempted, stay home! Or go to a gay bar LOL!
He has people at church he calls "friends", but no one he is close with, or who calls him.(except for his family on occasion) Many many years of our marriage has been spent as just husband and me. Except for going to work or the grocery store, we are together most of the time.
Don't get me wrong, I have a girlfriend who I have know for 30 years, and another I have known for a few years. Both live opposite ends of the state, and I see/hear from them only so often. The gal pal who I want to go out on a "girls night out" shows all the signs of becoming a really good friend. But because I have been badly burned by a goup of friends a little over a year ago, trusting doesn't come easy.
My dh trusts me too but I can assure you he would not approve of me going to a club. Not now not ever. And I respect that. I don't think I'd like it if he did it either. Not about to ruin an almost 20 year marriage just so I can get my freak on.
Girls night out for me means a movie, dinner, a church event, something completely tame where there is very little chance of some guy hitting on me. I also don't drink so there you go.
She didn't say where she was going, but didn't disagree when people thought it would be bar hopping at meat markets. Very dangerous for a married woman.
My dh trusts me too but I can assure you he would not approve of me going to a club. Not now not ever. And I respect that. I don't think I'd like it if he did it either. Not about to ruin an almost 20 year marriage just so I can get my freak on.
Not much of a marriage if you think it could be ruined by going out dancing with your girlfriends. I have way more self restraint than that and so does my husband. If I thought there was any way on earth he could cheat on me going out, I wouldn't let him. But then again if I thought that, I wouldn't have married him either!
Your new friend may be on the up and up like AvaTara539, but she may not. It is possible that this friend drags you into a bad situation, late at night with a few drinks in the both of you.
Either way, with respect to your man get to know your new friend by spending the *day* with her in staed and get a feel for if she's a man chaser. Once you and your husband get to know her he may feel a little more comfortable with the GNO.
Your new friend may be on the up and up like AvaTara539, but she may not. It is possible that this friend drags you into a bad situation, late at night with a few drinks in the both of you.
Either way, with respect to your man get to know your new friend by spending the *day* with her in staed and get a feel for if she's a man chaser. Once you and your husband get to know her he may feel a little more comfortable with the GNO.
yes,
i had the assumption that these girls nights out was with somrone you and possibly your husband already knew fairly well. may be bad news in the making.
Not much of a marriage if you think it could be ruined by going out dancing with your girlfriends. I have way more self restraint than that and so does my husband. If I thought there was any way on earth he could cheat on me going out, I wouldn't let him. But then again if I thought that, I wouldn't have married him either!
This was something dh and I actually negotiated before we got married. I'm not comfortable with him going out dancing without me and vice versa. We agreed. Our marriage is just fine because we both feel the same way about it.
Now in your case your husband loves it so I say go for it!
girls night out 
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