My husband and I have been together nearly 4 years now. We recently married in October of 2010 and shortly after I found out he was having what I assume was an EA.
I say assume because some think I over reacted but the hurt was great.
It was a coworker that he began emailing after she was there for him with our relationship problems. I didn't even know these problems existed at the time because he never spoke to me about them.
I was browsing our computer one night and found a saved google account. I have teenage children and didn't know who's it was at first but I soon found out he had set up a second account so he could email with her. What I found broke my heart...
She sent him texts saying how much she wished she could call to hear his voice. She also praised him for being such a strong wonderful man and a great dad.
The emails from him in response were what cut so deeply though. In them he repeatedly told her she was the one person in his life to understand him. He also told her that she was the reason he could get up everyday now with a smile and that she was the reason for any happiness he had since meeting her. And that he also wished he could talk to her from home..
I just sat there and read and reread these emails until my eyes ached from crying and staring at the screen. Then I called him into the room and pointed at the screen without saying a thing.
He wanted to know why I was snooping first and then got mad because he said he didn't know why I was so upset because they were only friends.
I told him that I would NEVER say those things to any of my friends- let alone a friend of the opposite sex. Alot of yelling and stomping around later and he apologized and promised he wouldn't talk to her anymore if I was that jealous.
The next day I sent this woman an email and told her to lay off my husband in no uncertain terms. She emailed me back saying she had no interest in him other than as a good friend and she was engaged anyway.
That day I took him lunch and his medicine that he had left at home knowing he would need it. I trusted blindly at that time that he would not be talking to her at all like he promised. Instead I pulled into the parking lot to find him sitting beside her and talking to her. I pulled up and asked what he was doing and he said he was only explaining to her that he couldn't speak with her anymore. I left feeling sick to my stomach with dread and worry. Instead of going home I circled back around and found him sitting with her again and they were both pointing and laughing when I pulled in.
At this point I was furious. He came to the car laughing and asked what I was doing. Instead of replying with an answer I asked him what he was doing and he said just laughing because he had just told her I would be back.
Have to write more later.
I say assume because some think I over reacted but the hurt was great.
It was a coworker that he began emailing after she was there for him with our relationship problems. I didn't even know these problems existed at the time because he never spoke to me about them.
I was browsing our computer one night and found a saved google account. I have teenage children and didn't know who's it was at first but I soon found out he had set up a second account so he could email with her. What I found broke my heart...
She sent him texts saying how much she wished she could call to hear his voice. She also praised him for being such a strong wonderful man and a great dad.
The emails from him in response were what cut so deeply though. In them he repeatedly told her she was the one person in his life to understand him. He also told her that she was the reason he could get up everyday now with a smile and that she was the reason for any happiness he had since meeting her. And that he also wished he could talk to her from home..
I just sat there and read and reread these emails until my eyes ached from crying and staring at the screen. Then I called him into the room and pointed at the screen without saying a thing.
He wanted to know why I was snooping first and then got mad because he said he didn't know why I was so upset because they were only friends.
I told him that I would NEVER say those things to any of my friends- let alone a friend of the opposite sex. Alot of yelling and stomping around later and he apologized and promised he wouldn't talk to her anymore if I was that jealous.
The next day I sent this woman an email and told her to lay off my husband in no uncertain terms. She emailed me back saying she had no interest in him other than as a good friend and she was engaged anyway.
That day I took him lunch and his medicine that he had left at home knowing he would need it. I trusted blindly at that time that he would not be talking to her at all like he promised. Instead I pulled into the parking lot to find him sitting beside her and talking to her. I pulled up and asked what he was doing and he said he was only explaining to her that he couldn't speak with her anymore. I left feeling sick to my stomach with dread and worry. Instead of going home I circled back around and found him sitting with her again and they were both pointing and laughing when I pulled in.
At this point I was furious. He came to the car laughing and asked what I was doing. Instead of replying with an answer I asked him what he was doing and he said just laughing because he had just told her I would be back.
Have to write more later.