Yes, a long term happy marriage is much more important than a showing one day! Can't even compare! With that much of money, I have the down payment for an apartment!
some good friends of mine drop 47K on a weeding, marriage lasted 32 months almost to the day.
Why do you have to give up your wedding just because your H doesn't want it?
Is he more important than you?
We are important to each other. Since a wedding is about the couple, I wouldn't feel comfortable forcing Mr.G to participate in something so meaningful. That's not fair. Posted via Mobile Device
We are important to each other. Since a wedding is about the couple, I wouldn't feel comfortable forcing Mr.G to participate in something so meaningful. That's not fair. Posted via Mobile Device
Mrs.G
You are smart!
Adding stress on our husbands is the least thing we want to do!
Thank you, my sweet dear greenpearl. I would not enjoy a second wedding if I knew my husband was forcing himself.
The truth is, I'm married already. The wedding has come and gone. It's too bad that I didn't get the wedding I wanted, but in the grander scheme of things, it means very little. We can always make more memories together! We had our honeymoon at the resort we married at-think foliage, a lake and gourmet food with a fireplace and a hot tub. That was a lovely week! I had to run away from Mr.G, because he wanted to make love to me twice a day! LOL The guest staff teased me when they saw me running about with messy hair and a misbuttoned shirt! *wipes tears from laughing*
When we go up north, people gawk at us because we are a mixed couple. They are not like city dwellers who rarely bat an eye. We used to love making out in front of the ignorant fools. Posted via Mobile Device
I don't recommend a second wedding. I recommend more precious two people time together, just like you described.
Marriage is about two people, go to a nice restaurant, enjoy nice meals and two of you lovey dovey, what a nice picture. Go to a nice hotel, two of you spend time f**king like rabbits, what lovely moments. Take a walk near a lake, hold each other's hands, gazing at each other passionately , don't you feel this is sweet!!!
On our anniversary day, I want to cum three times. I could do it before, I don't know about it this year! But two for sure. We usually go to a fancy motel, go to a nice restaurant, go to a nice coffee shop, buy something nice for me! I look forward to that day, it is the only day we celebrate in a year.
We are important to each other. Since a wedding is about the couple, I wouldn't feel comfortable forcing Mr.G to participate in something so meaningful. That's not fair. Posted via Mobile Device
Ok, well, then, this is one of the first things you're going to have to learn about being married.
When ONE partner gives up what they want to please the other partner....IT DOESN'T WORK!
Why? Because the one who gave up starts resenting the one who got what he wanted.
Thank you, my sweet dear greenpearl. I would not enjoy a second wedding if I knew my husband was forcing himself.
The truth is, I'm married already. The wedding has come and gone. It's too bad that I didn't get the wedding I wanted, but in the grander scheme of things, it means very little. We can always make more memories together! We had our honeymoon at the resort we married at-think foliage, a lake and gourmet food with a fireplace and a hot tub. That was a lovely week! I had to run away from Mr.G, because he wanted to make love to me twice a day! LOL The guest staff teased me when they saw me running about with messy hair and a misbuttoned shirt! *wipes tears from laughing*
When we go up north, people gawk at us because we are a mixed couple. They are not like city dwellers who rarely bat an eye. We used to love making out in front of the ignorant fools. Posted via Mobile Device
What is north for you? I'm in Texas and, believe it or not, people around here really don't give a fig. Our DD20's godfather, H's best friend, was Black. Our best friends across the street are Black. DD20's best friend is Korean, and her other best friend is half-Thai. Her male best friend is Black.
I guess we're just so immersed in that kind of situation that I don't run into people any more who don't think the way we do.
Ok, well, then, this is one of the first things you're going to have to learn about being married.
When ONE partner gives up what they want to please the other partner....IT DOESN'T WORK!
Why? Because the one who gave up starts resenting the one who got what he wanted.
The one key here is COMMUNICATION.
Is he aware of how desperately you want it?
If so, does he CARE?
Asking if my husband is "more important" or "cares what I want" is just mean spirited way to insult the way we communicate or decide things. I am no longer going to respond to your unhelpful comments. You have nothing to teach me about being married; you only want to be insulting. Look at how polite the other responses were.
Last time, turnera. Despite what you would like to happen, I hold no resentment towards my husband. I accept his reasoning and I've moved on. Sorry that you advocate being pushy and difficult, but it is not my style. I can assure you that our compromises go both ways. Jump back on your broom and take your bitterness to your husband, not my marriage! LOL Posted via Mobile Device
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Believe me Atholk, I'm well aware of her controlling ways. I am ostracized because I stand up to her. Too bad! I'm not going to live in misery like my dad and two of my brothers.
She DID attempt to ruin our relationship by making racist comments and being very unpleasant to be around. Though I was hurt, I was hardly surprised. She has always done so with anyone I dated; even went so far as to criticize me to my exes.
My eldest bro is single and childless at 41...he hates it. Yet he allows my mother to choose his partners and runs to her with all of his private business-women leave because he is a mama's boy. So sad.
I've reached a point in my life where I stay away from negative and mean spirited fools. Let my mother moan about how 2 of her four children want nothing to do with her. She is too dense and damaged to see why.
My wedding was not what I wanted. It was, however, beautiful for what it was. My dress was gorgeous, the setting was wonderful and my awful mom wasn't there.
Implying that my husband does not care about me, just because he didn't want to get married again, was an undeserved shot at us as a couple. Second weddings run the risk of appearing tacky and desperate- a costume party for those who had cheap weddings.
I'm excited about our first anniversary trip to the gorgeous Martimes. I'll finally meet my niece and my brother in law! Yaaay! Posted via Mobile Device
Re: How to get over wedding? Want to move on. 
But two for sure. We usually go to a fancy motel, go to a nice restaurant, go to a nice coffee shop, buy something nice for me! I look forward to that day, it is the only day we celebrate in a year.
