I'll be brief. (I know, everybody's thinking that's not possible) I need ideas/suggestions on things that I can do/say to show my W that I love her.
Before all my Alpha buds out there think I've gone beta, I absolutely have not. I am still taking a strong Alpha stand and currently it may be getting me frozen out in the master BR, but things are better as far as peace, harmony and discipline in our home.
So ladies (and gents) I'm fishing for the most unique and special ways to make W feel loved. Need to sweeten the Alpha offering with a little beta. And I want stuff besides "do the dishes/laundry, flowers, childcare etc."
Get out those gooey stories of how he swept you off your feet or how (men) you knocked her out with one punch (or two) ROMANCE!
I'm getting crusty and old and need new blood. I took yellow roses and her favorite KK doughnuts to the school today. Oh so CLICHE! Yawn... (BTW: She did call to say thanks)
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“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!” - Dr. Suess (In honor of my good friend Trenton)
Any chance you have some artist blood in you? One of the nicest gifts/acts of love I have ever gotten was a sketch pencil/charcoal drawing that my husband did off of a photo of the two of us sitting at the beach watching the sunset. If my house was on fire, I would grab my family, pets, bible and that drawing.
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“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!” - Dr. Suess (In honor of my good friend Trenton)
There is nothing more romantic one earth that my husband could do for me than plan an overnight or weekend trip for the two of us alone, so we could have a romantic night and day, and sleep in together!
For me, it is small things he does makes me feel in love. It shows he thinks about me all the time, he is taking care of my needs and he is constantly thinking of making me happy!
One time my husband picked me up from work and he had a bag packed. He took me to this house, in the woods, that had been turned into a place where we both got massages, then shared a shower together, and then had the living room to ourselves while we enjoyed the fire, and the wine and fruit and cheese the owners left for us. What a nice surprise.
On a different note, if you don't want to go the romantic route, what REALLY makes me feel loved is when he reacts to something I have said. For example, if I had said one day that I saw a statue at XYZ store that reminded me of my mom, and described it. And then the next day, if I came home from work and that statue was waiting for me on our kitchen counter. THAT says love to me.
What a lovely subject!
One the most pleasant surprises about my husband is how romantic he can be. He's been known to give me Old Hollywood kisses where I am dipped, just like when the marriage commissioner told Mr.G it was time to kiss me. Still waters do run deep, because my husband is the strong, silent type.
I love theatre and there is a lovely autumn festival in Stratford, Ontario. I have associated the fall with romance. My husband booked a hotel room and bought tickets to a play, as well as asked me to choose a restaurant. Stratford is a storybook town, with a gorgeous lake that has swans. Dinner was leisurely and decadent, as well as breakfast. Even though it was only one night, little getaways like this breathe life into a marriage. It's amazing what clean country air, fiery foliage and full bodied red wine can do!
We are finally going home to visit my husband's family. New Brunswick is like a Canadian Maine, think fish and rocky beaches. It will be our first anniversary and I will meet ALL of my in laws. My mother in law is planning a quaint dinner party for us. I'm so excited! Posted via Mobile Device
My advice is to listen carefully to what she says. She will give you clues as to what she really wants/needs/desires. Every woman is different. I have a big smile on my face just from a simple text my dh sent me this morning. Words of endearment lately are the keys to my heart.
Mrs G, Turnera, and AvaTara currently lead with 3 votes for short, unexpected romantic getaways. I think the key for those is planning, preparation and surprise, right?
GP - you have the most wonderful way with words. Your posts can cause me to get behind in my day because I enjoy reading them. Mr. GP sounds like a wise and very fortunate man.
Mrs. G - Beautiful words in your posts, too. Best wishes for meeting your in-laws too. Just remember in-laws "are but are not" an important part of marriage. They "are" important because they can give us some insight into how our spouses became the people they are. They "are not" important to our relationship because they should have little influence on our marriages and how we conduct our lives and families in the present.
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“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!” - Dr. Suess (In honor of my good friend Trenton)
Right. It turns a girl on to see her man spend time preparing something with her in mind.
I once read that the greatest turn-on (according to a survey) for a man to do was to personally bake cookies. So unexpected, something he usually expects HER to do, and so obviously done with her in mind.
Literally sweep her off her feet and jog her to the bedroom. Shut the door with your foot and, well, you can figure out the rest.
Take her to the ballet.
If you catch her rubbing her neck or acting like it is sore reach over and give her a little neck massage. I love it when my DH notices and takes action.
Mix CD. HAHA! I love it when my DH makes me a CD with my latest favorite songs on them...I recommend sticking in some romantic songs you guys danced to at your wedding or early on in your relationship, too.
Write on the bathroom mirror "I love you!" with that special window writer stuff you can get at walmart or the dollar store. Be sure to be the one to clean it off, too. You could do a special message if you want rather than ILY.
When you are in the hallway together put her up against the wall and kiss her passionately. When you pull away give her a ****y grin and tell her you just couldn't help yourself.
If my hubby arranged for babysitting, made dinner reservations, packed our things, and surprised me with a weekend getaway, I'd be on him like white on rice. A friend of mine's H did this for her and I thought it was the sweetest thing ever. The most romantic part of it was he'd been a careful observer over time because he knew just what outfits to pack, what makeup, toiletries, etc. She said he had it so completely planned out she couldn't have done it better herself!
There would definitely be sex in that hotel room! (Maybe I need to copy and paste this to my hubby somehow.... LOL!)
This is very romantic! A dream really.
At this point I'd be satisfied if my husband turned off the tv, put down the cell phone, and asked me to play a game of scrabble.
The most romantic part of it was he'd been a careful observer over time because he knew just what outfits to pack, what makeup, toiletries, etc. She said he had it so completely planned out she couldn't have done it better herself!
So true. When my DH picked me up that time with a packed bag, the VERY first thing I thought was 'oh God, what nightie and swimsuit had he picked out of the closet?'
Ladies...Need input... 
(BTW: She did call to say thanks
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