Well that sounds ridiculous. You should be putting your money together, paying for everything, ll bills, fuel, food, and your daughters needs including daycare and then splitting what is left after savings, if he feels the need to have some seperate money.
I think you need to get some locks and get someone in to put padlocks on the pantry and a fridge and when contributes he can eat, if not then he goes without.
You also need to not do anything for him, get a dish bucket for each of you and halve the dishes (put locks on your dish cupboard too) and just use your dishes, and then wash them and put them straight back in your dish cupboard. Same with washing, if he runs our of clothes and washing powder he will have to start paying for it and doing his own washing.
Also bill him for half of all other things, like your childs needs. If he thinks it's ridiculous and gets mad, put your foot down and say that you refuse to be a doormat and allow him to treat you that way, that he needs to act like a man and support his family, and do his fair share around the house.