I've done this. Sometimes I didn't finish and sometimes yep I just want more. I wait till he goes to sleep and I sneak out and have another O by myself.
I'm so glad to know I'm not alone in this. lol to multiple O's.
That sucks! I cant belive some guys dont like going down, I musta been a lesbian in a former life
Oddly enough my wife is not into BJs , ironic eh?
It does suck. lol Also that he rarely wants to have sex. It's been a source of frustration in our marriage for about 8 years now and I'm getting really tired of it.
And I've offered him BJs but he says no. Yes, he is a man. ha ha ha
I don't know what his problem is, used to think it was me and really did a number on my self esteem. But I've come to believe that it's him. Still have to fight the self esteem thing though.
I find this incredibly sad that you feel this way and I feel like saying shame on the woman on here for validating this very thought. Do you even know this is why you only have sex once a week? Or are you reaching for some reason?
Why say shame on someone for being honest? This board would be useless if people couldn't say how they feel.
Not all men seem to care about the woman's pleasure. It might be b/c they just don't care, or they are too intimidated to work at it so they act like they don't care, or they just get lazy. It does not matter why if they don't communicate their own concerns; all she gets is an unsatisfying sexual relationship. That can easily contribute to marital troubles. Some women have even said that if they tell their man what they like, he'll avoid doing it. How's that for one's satisfaction in the marriage?
It is a complicated issue and when one tries to communicate and gets nothing back in return, frustration and resentment build.
So, from what I can see. Masturbation is not better than having the real thing. And even if you do have multiple orgasms while masturbating, the one the hubby gives you is better.
This brings me to think that with hubby, the orgasm is bigger, so no need for multiple?
If hubby gives you one, after the big O, would you mind continuing?
So, from what I can see. Masturbation is not better than having the real thing. And even if you do have multiple orgasms while masturbating, the one the hubby gives you is better.
This brings me to think that with hubby, the orgasm is bigger, so no need for multiple?
If hubby gives you one, after the big O, would you mind continuing?
Thanks, being curious here
I don't quite understand what you are asking.
I usually cum first, after I cum, then it's my husband's turn to cum, and I really enjoy it. It feels like that my orgasm is lasting longer. That's why sometimes I want another orgasm because my husband arouses me again.
Why say shame on someone for being honest? This board would be useless if people couldn't say how they feel.
Because this is different. This guy is feeling inferior because he can't give his lady multiple O's. He's competing with likely a vibe. How fair is that? No man is battery operated. Also he wants to pleasure her but she was dumb enough to imply he wasn't enough maybe?? Now it's haunting him. Then he comes here and the women basically validate it. So yes it bothers me.
If hubby gives you one, after the big O, would you mind continuing?
What we do is I finish first then him. So of course he continues and I love every minute of it. He doesn't last long though if he did I probably would try for another one.
This guy is feeling inferior because he can't give his lady multiple O's. He's competing with likely a vibe. How fair is that? No man is battery operated. Also he wants to pleasure her but she was dumb enough to imply he wasn't enough maybe?? Now it's haunting him. Then he comes here and the women basically validate it. So yes it bothers me.
I’m not feeling inferior, and I’m not competing against a vibe. She didn’t use the vibe for over a month now, which I’m glad, with what I’ve read here on the effects of that. In my book, masturbation is a must for men and women, there are so many benefits, physically, mentally, and it helps to you understand your body better, how it reacts to certain things. That way, your better equipped to please someone else.
I’m just trying to understand why my wife doesn’t want to come more than once with me. I would love to keep going. However, she tells me that she likes when we come together. And while reading the post, everyone’s comments, this brings other questions.
I would love if my wife would open up on her sexual life, meaning that she feels comfortable 100% talking of all aspects. We could grow faster together. She’s not comfortable talking about masturbation, and when we have intercourse, I don’t think she’s letting herself go 100%.
I’m just trying to understand why my wife doesn’t want to come more than once with me. I would love to keep going. However, she tells me that she likes when we come together. And while reading the post, everyone’s comments, this brings other questions.
I would love if my wife would open up on her sexual life, meaning that she feels comfortable 100% talking of all aspects. We could grow faster together. She’s not comfortable talking about masturbation, and when we have intercourse, I don’t think she’s letting herself go 100%.
Oh thanks for clarifying. I say keep trying. I'm not comfortable with opening up with all aspects of my sexual life to my husband either. And until I can let go 100% it's unlikely I'll ever have more than one O with him.
Oh thanks for clarifying. I say keep trying. I'm not comfortable with opening up with all aspects of my sexual life to my husband either. And until I can let go 100% it's unlikely I'll ever have more than one O with him.
I’ll keep trying!!! Do you have any suggestions that might help her to open up? I was thinking that we could start all over, our sexual life. That we only masturbate, together for the first week or month, and then we could move on to foreplay, no penetration. Once comfortable, we could move on to penetration. But we should keep the communication going while having sex ie, go slower, faster do it this way, fu..k me harder lol... I don’t know, does this make sense to get her to open up??? Or am I going the wrong way?
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I know. What I want from my husband before I can open up sexually is to feel safe. I need to trust him and I can say at the moment I don't. He's a great guy he is but I don't trust him. Little things over the years have caused me to put up small walls. The biggest problem is lack of intimate conversations. He doesn't know how to listen to a woman without getting defensive. If he can't do that then how can I tell him what I want in bed?
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Timy,
More all day foreplay. Start small, then build it up. Text her during the day. First tell her how hot she is dressed today. Then, wait a few minutes. Text her again, about how you want to see her naked later, because your really turned on. Then, start the dialog, but make it like a romance novel....lots of description and lots of steam. This should get your wifes mind organ working all day. Have kids? Tell her you are taking care of them tonight..or send them to grandmas house...because you are going to be the big bad wolf tonight. You are putting them to bed, whatever. You are making or picking up supper tonight. Make sure she has noting to worry about that night except getting it on with you.
The trick to the texting is to start the dialog so it MAKES her curious. This opens up her mind.
Example....don't text..." I want you tonight..." right off the bat. Do this....
You..." I was thinking.....". ( the open endedness is the curiosity hook. Gets her interested.)
Her..."what?"
You." how hot you looked in your skirt this morning."
Pause for a response. If SHE doesn't respond..keep going.
You.." yes. It turns me on. You know what it makes me what to do...."
her..."yes...what?"
Then have some fun here. Be descriptive. Turn on her mind. Leave lots of open ended statements so she fills in the rest with her imagination.
At the end of your flirting...
"don't worry about dinner. Or the kids. I have that covered. I want you to just be concerned about putting on that sexy lengerie for me. See you after work! "
Her.." I can't wait!"
When u do this...your not asking. Don't ask her if it's ok if u do something. Just TELL her what you want to do to her and what you want her to do to you.
Re: Multiple O alone or 1 with husband? 
to multiple O's. 
