I’m curious to see your response to this. Is it better to please yourself, multiple orgasms then having just one with the husband? She has 99% of the time a good orgasm. But this is only one...she coule have, like 2 or more I think.
So I wonder if it’s easier for her to please herself, and a chore to have sex with me, more complicated and it involve someone else.
Note that we have sex close to once a week...sometimes we can reach two weeks. And that is fare from fulfilling my need, but I don’t complain.
Im just like your wife- i can have multiple O's on my own but maybe one with my H.
It is not better doing it on my own, but sex can be very frustrating. The first time I O its just the beginning and there's a lot left but he can only go once and its over. Plus it can take me awhile to cum the first time and he cums really fast so that can be frustrating. I definitely enjoy sex more, i just wish it lasted longer and that i didnt feel pressured to cum quickly.
Im just like your wife- i can have multiple O's on my own but maybe one with my H.
It is not better doing it on my own, but sex can be very frustrating. The first time I O its just the beginning and there's a lot left but he can only go once and its over. Plus it can take me awhile to cum the first time and he cums really fast so that can be frustrating. I definitely enjoy sex more, i just wish it lasted longer and that i didnt feel pressured to cum quickly.
OK, so;
- Did you tell your husband that you would like to come more than once?
(My wife tells me no, she likes to come at the same time as me, I'm not sure about this, I think she doesn’t want to worry me or make me fill like I’m not good enough, I don’t know...)
- When you come the first time, does it take you long to come again?
Could you tell me exactly, the perfect scenario for you, perhaps my wife will be somewhat similar to this, I guess women in general would like it that way...
I have one O either by masturbating or with sex. And if given a choice I will pick sex hands down everytime over masturbation. If it were better to please myself I probably wouldn't be married right now. I wouldn't trade multiple O's for a night with my H ever. He's hot and I love him.
I wish I could O regularly with my hubby, then I might actually want more sex and we wouldn't be fighting about it all the time. It has become a chore for me as it just never happens...and the more he wants me to have an O, the harder it is...ugh
- Did you tell your husband that you would like to come more than once?
Not at first. At first I actually faked having orgasms and faked when I came. I told him i was faking and it was kinda upsetting for him. Recently I've told him sex can be frustrating because i need to cum more then once. Its hard to say that to a guy, though, because it puts a lot of pressure on him, on us, and kind of takes the fun out of it. For me anyway. And now since he knows i can cum more then once he wants to make me do that, but its not that easy. I can see that he's trying and its kind of stressful, not at all romantic or sexy, so I usually fake coming more then once. Sometimes I tell him I don't want to come at all, that its fine if he just does. That's not entirely accurate, though. I kind of resent him for it...so complicated.
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- When you come the first time, does it take you long to come again?
With him it usually does take some time. On my own its pretty quick. There has been maybe one occasion (in Five years) that i came easily the second time.
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Could you tell me exactly, the perfect scenario for you, perhaps my wife will be somewhat similar to this, I guess women in general would like it that way...
The perfect scenario. Hmmm...i don't really know. I think it would have to involve another girl and maybe some toys, but that's just fantasy and we'd never really do it. In reality, I'm stumped!
When most woman masturbate they use a toy of some sort.. the vibe makes it happen very quick.. if we go at it manually it takes more time usually (at least its that way for me)
I guess I'm the only one that would choose my vibe over my hub.. but those who know my story know why.
But I always have multis with the toys.. manually i stop at one, and i hardly ever had an O with my hub
When most woman masturbate they use a toy of some sort.. the vibe makes it happen very quick.. if we go at it manually it takes more time usually (at least its that way for me)
I guess I'm the only one that would choose my vibe over my hub.. but those who know my story know why.
But I always have multis with the toys.. manually i stop at one, and i hardly ever had an O with my hub
I'm not a big fan of vibes for this very reason. I used to use one when I masturbated and it got to where I then couldn't have an O without one. It took a while to learn how to O again without one.
I don't use a toy. I prefer to do it manually same as I would with my H.
- Did you tell your husband that you would like to come more than once?
(My wife tells me no, she likes to come at the same time as me, I'm not sure about this, I think she doesn’t want to worry me or make me fill like I’m not good enough, I don’t know...)
- When you come the first time, does it take you long to come again?
Could you tell me exactly, the perfect scenario for you, perhaps my wife will be somewhat similar to this, I guess women in general would like it that way...
Sounds like you have some insecurities in this department, No?
What matters is your wife not mine or anyone elses. Would you rather "spank it" 10x or have sex once?
I know the answer to that for me....you and the wife just keep talking and have fun........don't become obsessive if she didn't like sex or like you....you wouldn't be getting ANY!!
I’m not being fulfilled in this department. I’m just trying to understand the female point of view on this subject I guess.
Personally, if I could reach multiple O and my partner wouldn’t be able to give me this, I might enjoy more masturbating then having sex. I would still have sex with the partner, but it wouldn’t come as naturally, it wouldn’t happen as often, and I wouldn’t tell not to hurt his felling.
Then again, I can be wrong. I’m a guy. That is why I’m asking the ladies.
Not at first. At first I actually faked having orgasms and faked when I came. I told him i was faking and it was kinda upsetting for him. Recently I've told him sex can be frustrating because i need to cum more then once. Its hard to say that to a guy, though, because it puts a lot of pressure on him, on us, and kind of takes the fun out of it. For me anyway. And now since he knows i can cum more then once he wants to make me do that, but its not that easy. I can see that he's trying and its kind of stressful, not at all romantic or sexy, so I usually fake coming more then once. Sometimes I tell him I don't want to come at all, that its fine if he just does. That's not entirely accurate, though. I kind of resent him for it...so complicated.
With him it usually does take some time. On my own its pretty quick. There has been maybe one occasion (in Five years) that i came easily the second time.
The perfect scenario. Hmmm...i don't really know. I think it would have to involve another girl and maybe some toys, but that's just fantasy and we'd never really do it. In reality, I'm stumped!
It is complicated, and frustrating. Mastery in communication, patience and guidance is the key. But, easier said than done!!!!
Personally, if I could reach multiple O and my partner wouldn’t be able to give me this, I might enjoy more masturbating then having sex. I would still have sex with the partner, but it wouldn’t come as naturally, it wouldn’t happen as often, and I wouldn’t tell not to hurt his felling.
I find this incredibly sad that you feel this way and I feel like saying shame on the woman on here for validating this very thought. Do you even know this is why you only have sex once a week? Or are you reaching for some reason?
I find this incredibly sad that you feel this way and I feel like saying shame on the woman on here for validating this very thought. Do you even know this is why you only have sex once a week? Or are you reaching for some reason?
Tring to understand, that's all. No, I do not know this... But, is it right at some level, or not at all?
Multiple O alone or 1 with husband? 
