I'm not married but was involved with a man once who did this very thing.
And yes, he was one of these that wanted things done for him, but didn't care how you felt or what you said about anything. He was all about himself.
I could ask him to do whatever, he wouldn't. It would never get done. Once I had to take some things to my car for the donations center, the bags were very heavy, not something I could lift especially due to my back issues. I asked him in a nice way if he would. He did say sure.
A week passed, they still sat there. When I asked why he hadn't put them in the car, he got pissed and said he would. Are ya serious?
You're gonna get mad at me when I asked you once and a week later it still wasn't done?
Needless to say I learned real quick how he operated. So the next time he wanted sex, I acted just like he did. I did it when I wanted to, which translated into not doing it all.
Do not think for one minute you can treat me like that after I ask you do something simple and then expect me to do whatever for you. Doesn't work that way.