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Old 05-12-2011, 12:30 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Firstly, I missed my mom so bad. She's been gone 3 1/2 years. Secondly not one of my kids had card for me til later in the day. I have 19, 15, 3 year old and 5 month old. The older two went at 6 and got a card and some kind of flower in a swan vase. My hubby ran into grocery store that morning and grabbed a card for me while getting one for his mom and flowers for her. He said I could pick something out at the clothing store Monday. I made my own supper and tiled the kitchen. I have seriously never felt so unappreciated in my life. My H has nerve to critcize older two but in my opinion he sucked too. I don't need fancy gifts or the world - but I really felt like an after thought to everyone.
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Old 05-12-2011, 12:33 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I think you are right to feel that way and that is how resentment starts.

Let him know how you feel, give him a chance to fix it and make it right. After all it's only too late if he does nothing.
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Old 05-12-2011, 12:34 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I think you are right to feel that way and that is how resentment starts.

Let him know how you feel, give him a chance to fix it and make it right. After all it's only too late if he does nothing.
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Old 05-12-2011, 04:13 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Mine sucked too.

Similar issues - but at least you got cards.

I got no cards, from anyone and 2 of the three completely forgot.

Count your blessings...
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Old 05-12-2011, 05:42 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Mine sucked too.

Similar issues - but at least you got cards.

I think mostly I missed my mom. We went to see MIL whom I can't stand as she is 90 percent of the reason my H is a Holy mess. It just rubbed harder in my face that my mom is gone. I was pregnant with 3 year old when she died so she never got to meet him (hadn't told her I was pregnant yet due to waiting confirmation everything was fine due to previous devastating 26 weeks miscarriage). It just hit home that she missed out on huge part of my life and I miss her so bad right now. My H claims to dislike his mom and I got my card when he ran in for her stuff. Really petty stuff in grand scheme of things.

I got no cards, from anyone and 2 of the three completely forgot.

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Old 05-16-2011, 04:21 PM   #6 (permalink)
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here is how my mother's day went~ Got a homemade card and starter plant from my 6 year old daughter that she made at school. My 15 year old never said happy mothers day and my 18 year old texted me! Here's the kicker, My H said at 9:30 at night "oh by the way happy mother's day" and rolled over and went to sleep. Sorry to hear about all the bad mothers day! Guess what he's gettin for fathers day? Not a damn thing!
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Old 05-16-2011, 04:29 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Firstly, I missed my mom so bad. She's been gone 3 1/2 years. Secondly not one of my kids had card for me til later in the day. I have 19, 15, 3 year old and 5 month old. The older two went at 6 and got a card and some kind of flower in a swan vase. My hubby ran into grocery store that morning and grabbed a card for me while getting one for his mom and flowers for her. He said I could pick something out at the clothing store Monday. I made my own supper and tiled the kitchen. I have seriously never felt so unappreciated in my life. My H has nerve to critcize older two but in my opinion he sucked too. I don't need fancy gifts or the world - but I really felt like an after thought to everyone.
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I had a similarly sucky day...I was especially dissappointed in my husband and my teen daughter.
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Old 05-16-2011, 04:35 PM   #8 (permalink)
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That's why I started the thread on, "You aren't MY mother," which was my ex's excuse for ignoring mother's day for 20 years. It does hurt. I have to say, though, my kids have always come through for me--homemade gifts and coupons are the best!
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So happy for you that you have kids that don't forget the true meaning of mothers day. On the other hand I have heard that same comment about not being there mother, but I have to say You are the mother of his children and it is his responsibility to teach them the greatness of mothers. That said I don't expect gifts or flowers just aknowledgement.
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Old 05-16-2011, 09:27 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I am right up there. My mother's day sucked too. I got a card that was all. But at least I got a card!
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I am right up there. My mother's day sucked too. I got a card that was all. But at least I got a card!
It's hard to explain - I know I sound whiney but I just wanted to be spoiled. I'm not my husband's mom, but I am mom to his kids and come father's day, I'm going to show him how to do it right!
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I have to say that few Mother's Days were as bad as my wife's.

I had planned - and had scheduled - a photo shoot to demonstrate how much her female children look like her.

Black and white stills, the whole nine yards.

Was going to pay a fortune.

She tried to kick me out on Friday nite, after one of her children physically assaulted me.

Suffice it to say, they are gone - I am here - and the photo shoot did not happen.
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I have to say that few Mother's Days were as bad as my wife's.

I had planned - and had scheduled - a photo shoot to demonstrate how much her female children look like her.

Black and white stills, the whole nine yards.

Was going to pay a fortune.

She tried to kick me out on Friday nite, after one of her children physically assaulted me.

Suffice it to say, they are gone - I am here - and the photo shoot did not happen.
I'm sorry to hear that! I'll take my late cards and after-thought gifts any day over that! Wow that makes me sad. How old are kids? I have to say H isn't perfect but I see my teens looking for weaknesses to divide us for their own way. Doesn't work out quite the same with two natural parents - but throw a step in there and things get ugly very easily!
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I have to say that few Mother's Days were as bad as my wife's.

I had planned - and had scheduled - a photo shoot to demonstrate how much her female children look like her.

Black and white stills, the whole nine yards.

Was going to pay a fortune.

She tried to kick me out on Friday nite, after one of her children physically assaulted me.

Suffice it to say, they are gone - I am here - and the photo shoot did not happen.
Conrad,

Why did this happen?

I remember a few weeks ago everything was going fine between you and your wife!

I am feeling sad!
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Old 05-17-2011, 03:52 AM   #15 (permalink)
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Short answer?

She's "more important than me"

They are "more important than her"

That's the only way I can explain the lack of accountability.
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