Mom6547

Luxury vacation.... including a romantic evening where the Maitre D' thinks you are celebrating a very important anniversary. You get absolutely beautifulled up. (I love making up words.) Princess for an evening. If not the same.... maybe fun. Get your hair and makeup professional done.

greenpearl

Do you know what my husband would tell me if I tell him that I didn't get what I wanted.

He will just tell me to " Shut up" !



We have built our sweet life together!

You and Mr.G will build a sweet life together!

And that's much more important! That's the goal you should focus on!

Mom6547

Beautiful! Is that you? If so I am concerned about your privacy on the internet.

greenpearl

Hey, in this area your husband and my husband are the same!

I like to give things away.

But I never dare to give away what he bought for me! He warns me every time when I want to give things away. He said he will never buy anything for me anymore if I give away what he buys for me!

I want him to buy things for me! So I don't give away what he bought for me! So obedient!

Mrs.G

Your husband is gangster. I hope that he doesn't tell you to shut up whenever you have an issue.

We are slowly building a nice life...it will take seven years for us to finally buy a condo. I will be nearly 40 when I own a home; much too late in life.

Mrs.G

Yeah, I know some women who give their sisters or cousins jewellery their husbands bought them. That is so mean and ungrateful. My husband is too sharp to miss anything he gives me. He runs after me with my wedding rings if I do not have them on: "I spent a lot of money to show the world that you are my wife. Wear your rings please!"

Mom6547

How can he buy things for you? Is the money his? We share money. The whole give things thing never made sense to me. Things are just things. But obviously not every one feels that way. IIRC gifts is one of the love languages.

greenpearl

Real problems he is always very sympathetic.

But he doesn't allow whining and self-pity. He just tells me he doesn't like women who are like that.

You live in a big city, so buying a place is more difficult!

Vancouver is the only place which I don't find too cold. But I can never think of living there. Your city is even more expensive, isn't it?

Mom6547

Slow down there Mrs G.... You got annoyed when you thought GP was judging you for wanting a wedding. Now you are judging others (by pure accident me) harshly for not valuing stuff. I actually LOST my wedding and engagement rings, both family heirlooms. I am now wearing a piece of **** ring from the jewelry cart at the mall. I have never once been able to fail to lose a piece of jewelry. It just is not me.

If SH were to buy something for me that I did not wear, he would be the first one to tell me to get rid of it so it did not clutter up our lives with stuff.

Different strokes.

bunny23

I responded to your other post before. But I let me weigh in again, I completely understand where you are coming from.

However are you still looking at wedding magazines? I know we had to compromise on a few things since we were paying 100% for the wedding and I didn't want to spend 30K+ even though we could scrape that money together.
The reason I ask is because I know when I look at Martha Stewart etc. I sometimes want those things! I know it's silly... but I keep looking at those 10K dresses and weddings at estates and I wonder what it would be like.

So ask yourself- is this you who wants this or is it because you keep looking at things?
My one friend always wanted a "fairytale" and they spent 60k on their wedding, half the people never showed and they now owe 60k in loans, on top of bills such as mortgage and new baby. The guy works 2 jobs, and she works 1- they never see each other and they do't have anything saves. They couldn't even throw their 2 year old a B day party because they could not afford it.

What are your priorities.. and are you making this look better then it really would be? A normal reception, if you simply wanted something nice, with 100 people, DJ, photographer.. at least 15K+.

I say stop thinking about it, put money away and once you hit the 5 year mark you can decide how you would like to spend it!

greenpearl

Anniversary gifts we consider his gifts for me!

And jewelry we consider his gifts for me!

Whatever he wants to buy for me we consider his gifts for me!

We share money too!

But we have our interesting rules!

Mrs.G

Mama, forgive my ignorance, but what does IIRC mean?

He will buy me things with his money and I will do the same with my money. We share a lot, but not all.

My main love language is Touch; gifts is a close second.
His are Acts of Service, as well as Quality Time. Mr.G showers me with hugs and kisses, as well as buys lovely gifts.

I give my husband gifts, spend time with him and try not to ignore him by being on the computer or on the phone; that is my husband's pet peeve. I'm surprised that an introvert needs so much undivided attention. I also make sure he has a good meal at night.

My husband was not a cuddler until he met me; he came from a rather cold WASP family. Jamaican families are often very affectionate; albeit abusive.

Mom6547

Ah. We don't buy gifts for anniversary. We make plans to do something special together.

Mrs.G

Mom6547

If I recall correctly