My husband and I were married in 1983. We are both in our mid-fifties. We've had a rocky marriage during the past 3 to 4 years. Two years ago he had an EA>PA with secretary and our relationship started to suffer at a rapid pace.
When I read these stories on this site, I feel so bad for the person. He told me this morning and it took me to now to able to compose myself to admit my failure to my fellow cohorts on TAM.
Today, I got the speach that I've read hundreds of times here. It was always someone else, but today it was me. My head is aching. My heart is in pain. My eyes are swollen.
He said that he no longer loves me. He is no longer attracted to me. He hasn't been in love with me for about 9 months. He doesn't want me to be his wife anymore but he wants us to be friends.
He said that there is no one else and I am 99% certian that is true. He does not want and cannot live anymore with the responsibilty of a wife. He would prefer to be a "loner" than have to answer to anyone.
He said that he has been unhappy for a long time but didn't want to hurt me again.
He wishes me well and said that he will not fight me on any divorce issues. He hopes that we will be able to remain friends and continue to communicate on a daily basis.
He said that he'd like to date me because he enjoys my company. So there you have it. Another sob story from a broken soul. Thank you for listening.