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Old 06-06-2011, 04:49 AM   #46 (permalink)
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Give her lots of compliments that she's so beautiful and sexy. Spank her bum bum. Hubby always do this.
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That would not be seductive to me in any way. I'd consider it playful and almost funny but not seductive.

Seductive takes more work in my opinion and is not nearly as blunt as sexts and naked P90. If you master seduction I think she will be more likely to respond to sext'ing and P90 naked ideas.

For seduction I think there has to be subtle conflict and intense emotions built up to create a sense of sexual friction.

An example: If your wife had interaction with any man. Say you're at the grocery store and she gets help from the clerk and you comment on how he is checking her out. If this happened you could say something along the lines of, "Why was that guy checking you out?"

Now she might feel that you're being ridiculous but your slight jealousy and notice of her as a woman will stir emotions for her. Then you can follow your comment up with a physical touch of some sort. A light slap on the bum or an arm around her waist (arm around her waist if she's not use to a lot of physical touch from you) and then say, "You're mine." -or if this is too much for her- you can say something jokingly but firm in the form of a question but said as a statement...like, "Doesn't he know you're mine." Then let it go.

Now later on that evening you can re-bring up the emotions you stirred and have it lead to more physical touch. So you say something like, "Why do you look so good in those *fill in the blank with whatever she was wearing that you found attractive during the day*?

Make eye contact with her and say something along the lines of (again, not in a serious psycho voice but rather a joking, serious/possibly not serious voice, "I don't think it's fair that you give me a hard on like that and do nothing about it."

If she's responding well you can place her hand on your ****. She may not submit to you and instead will look confused or give you a similar reaction as to what you got from P90 which is why you have to continually build the seduction with small conversations like the one you had in the grocery store until she feels as if she is a Sex Goddess who can fulfill your every whim and wants to.

If you're just starting out you will have to take it slow and use her responses as your guides. The more subtle you are to begin with, the better her response.

Seduction is about making the other person feel intense, not made to feel self conscious. Unless you have all the aspects in play you will continue to get your wife's feedback to your suggestions to mimic those of a woman who feels insecure with her own body and has no idea why you'd be interested.
I really like this. *sigh*
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Give her lots of compliments that she's so beautiful and sexy. Spank her bum bum. Hubby always do this.
My husband does the butt spank too!
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Old 06-06-2011, 07:47 AM   #49 (permalink)
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Gift certificate for a new bra and panties from a lingerie shop. One that will do a proper fitting and make sure she gets the right fit. For the nearly-naked P90... :-)

I don't know about other women, but for me a good fitting new bra goes a long way towards the great 40+ body after 3 kids.

A chick-fit tee shirt and some new workout shorts too.

If she spends a lot of time at gymnastics watching the kids in the evening at classes in a viewing area, one thing I saw that goes a LONG way in the esteem department is to have hubby bring in a nice salad meal and iced coffee from a nearby cafe. Delivered with a kiss on the neck, by your most attractive self. Then ask if there is anything else she wants, such as specific chores done around the house or dinner on the table, errands run, etc. before she gets home.

How it works is that after you leave, there will be many many nice things said about you by the other women...

If you are already doing this and it has fallen short, my condolences.
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Old 06-06-2011, 10:35 AM   #50 (permalink)
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You are so right....
But if she's not into it, it's not happening.
That's true. So did you ask her what she is into? Or is she still having the affair with the other guy?
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Old 06-06-2011, 11:44 AM   #51 (permalink)
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Bah, she is not having an affair, or at least if she is, she is darn good at hiding it. And yes, I have asked her repeatedly over the years what she is into and it is a very small list.

In fact she is one of the few women that I have ever known that actually asks for thinks like a vacuum or kitchen appliances for Christmas/etc. I'd just as soon buy her diamonds and she wants a Cuisanart.. WTF?
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In fact she is one of the few women that I have ever known that actually asks for thinks like a vacuum or kitchen appliances for Christmas/etc. I'd just as soon buy her diamonds and she wants a Cuisanart.. WTF?
She is not in tune with having a sensual side of herself. Not everybody is - I have something of that same problem but am getting more in tune BECAUSE my husband refuses to let me exist like that.

There was another thread that I just read this morning that had a post that essentially said that inside every prim, proper, innocent, non-sensual wife is a tiger waiting to be unleashed by her husband. Likely true in many cases - the only problem is YOU have to figure out how to help take that leash off of her (and she may not even realize she has one on!) The way my husband does it is by acting like I am the sexiest woman in the world to him - the only one for him, and he does a good job of making me believe he is the only one for me too. So, after so many years of this I am beginning to start to believe him.
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Old 06-06-2011, 12:12 PM   #53 (permalink)
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Bah, she is not having an affair, or at least if she is, she is darn good at hiding it.
My comment was directed to Under re: the affair.

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And yes, I have asked her repeatedly over the years what she is into and it is a very small list.
Do the things on her "small list" and ask her straight up today what she finds seductive. Tell her you want to make her happy, ask what you can do. Tell her what you like too.
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Bah, she is not having an affair, or at least if she is, she is darn good at hiding it. And yes, I have asked her repeatedly over the years what she is into and it is a very small list.

In fact she is one of the few women that I have ever known that actually asks for thinks like a vacuum or kitchen appliances for Christmas/etc. I'd just as soon buy her diamonds and she wants a Cuisanart.. WTF?
Some ladies are practical. When I was dating my husband, I asked for a vacuum because I was moving. He gave it to me, but also added Chris Rock tickets. I don't ask for practical gifts anymore, because Mr.G thinks that they are unromantic.

I have wanted an amazing cake mixer. I asked for it on my birthday; my husband laughed and gave me a quick kiss. "I'll buy you something nice."

Does she like jewelry? Flowers? Lingerie? Surprise her with a diamond necklace...let your wife know that you want to see her with nothing but the necklace on.
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Some ladies are practical. When I was dating my husband, I asked for a vacuum because I was moving. He gave it to me, but also added Chris Rock tickets. I don't ask for practical gifts anymore, because Mr.G thinks that they are unromantic.

I have wanted an amazing cake mixer. I asked for it on my birthday; my husband laughed and gave me a quick kiss. "I'll buy you something nice."

Does she like jewelry? Flowers? Lingerie? Surprise her with a diamond necklace...let your wife know that you want to see her with nothing but the necklace on.
You know, this got me thinking. If she likes practical gifts like food mixers, then get them for her! But make it romantic too by putting the diamond bracelet and a boatload of flowers in the mixer bowl! Don't let the practicalities stop you from being romantic - get creative!
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I've never been seduced so don't ask me.
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Old 06-06-2011, 03:23 PM   #57 (permalink)
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practical gifts seduce me as well as any piece of jewelry.

kitchenaid artisan series mixer....*n-pples hard just thinking of it* hehe...


KitchenAidŽ ArtisanŽ 5-Quart Stand Mixer - Empire Red: Amazon.ca: Home & Garden

Are you wet yet WR? I am!
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I've never been seduced so don't ask me.
Not even before you were married?
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Got a sexy black one sitting in my kitchen right now
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Enchantment,

That is a great idea I may try that, though money is less available then it used to be.

WhiteRabbit,

Too funny!!

Mrs G.,

Jewelry, yes to some degree; Flowers kinda; lingerie, sadly NO.

Jellybeans,

I have asked her. Maybe I am asking it wrong somehow but there is nothing that seems to really get her going. Her love language is acts of service but I think I do fairly well in that area. *sigh*
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