My wife gave me her daily dose of rejection. She once again, reminded me that we're through, and how she's only here for the kids. This time she added the "I have nothing to give" comment.
So I tell my wife I had enough ... again. The ice cold reception, and the "I don't care about you" attitude has me fed up.
Anyway, we engage in another pleasant conversation, and she tells me that she evaluated our marriage, and she feels that she's done with our marriage,.... based on our past history of fighting, etc.... I reminded her that our last real fight was about 2 yrs ago. She told me the way I handled her EA, was the last straw.
Ok, I went along.
Then I tell her that I'm leaving. I remind her that I could do better than to stay with someone that has nothing to give me.
I told her I would look for a place to live tomorrow. She mentioned how it would hurt the kids. I told her I'll deal with them myself.
Then she suggested we stay together for the kid's sake, and she do whatever she can to keep me happy.
She said she doesn't love me "that way" anymore, and she has "nothing to give me" inside.
THEN...
She said she would like me to be her "booty call", and we could just live together otherwise.
She said she does not want other men, and I would fill that void.
Do you have a clue what might be going on in this woman's mind?
It almost sounds as if she's saying things to hurt as much as possible, but wants me to stay for more.
Nope, sorry. She makes about as much sense as my estranged husband does. I gave up trying to decipher that gibberish two years ago. It was futile! I really don't get the part where she isn't interested in other men, but she is interested in "booty call" with you and she has had an EA. That makes no sense.
I'm not familiar with your situation, so I'm going to make a stab at a translation. Are your the primary bread winner?.....And perhaps she wants to "cake eat". She sounds like she wants to enjoy her current lifestyle without all the emotional strings attached and no commitments.
My wife gave me her daily dose of rejection. She once again, reminded me that we're through, and how she's only here for the kids. This time she added the "I have nothing to give" comment.
So I tell my wife I had enough ... again. The ice cold reception, and the "I don't care about you" attitude has me fed up.
Anyway, we engage in another pleasant conversation, and she tells me that she evaluated our marriage, and she feels that she's done with our marriage,.... based on our past history of fighting, etc.... I reminded her that our last real fight was about 2 yrs ago. She told me the way I handled her EA, was the last straw.
Ok, I went along.
Then I tell her that I'm leaving. I remind her that I could do better than to stay with someone that has nothing to give me.
I told her I would look for a place to live tomorrow. She mentioned how it would hurt the kids. I told her I'll deal with them myself.
Then she suggested we stay together for the kid's sake, and she do whatever she can to keep me happy.
She said she doesn't love me "that way" anymore, and she has "nothing to give me" inside.
THEN...
She said she would like me to be her "booty call", and we could just live together otherwise.
She said she does not want other men, and I would fill that void.
Do you have a clue what might be going on in this woman's mind?
It almost sounds as if she's saying things to hurt as much as possible, but wants me to stay for more.
The "I have nothing to give" comment makes somewhat sense but then you lost me. I have a few questions...
Do you and her often make threats you cannot or will not keep?
Do you make her feel as if she is A W E S O M E and she still responds this way?
What I get from your tit for tat is that she wants you/needs you but that you refuse to see it and so she says things/does things in a desperate attempt to manipulate you to respond as she wants you to.
Is she the woman for you? Do you think she is the be all/end all?
What is your part in all this? History? A woman doesn't behave so irrationally without ration. So take that in. Ingest what she is saying and decide if it is as dramatic as it sounds.
Who gives a crap what she's trying to say.
Bottom line,... If you have the balls to sit here and tell a H of 15 yrs that you have nothing to give, then I should just leave.... Period.
I'm moving out.
Makes no sense replying.
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Who gives a crap what she's trying to say.
Bottom line,... If you have the balls to sit here and tell a H of 15 yrs that you have nothing to give, then I should just leave.... Period.
I'm moving out.
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I believe your wife is using and abusing you and she’s being very two faced.
You may want to consider, ponder on, your wife being the one who should leave and see what that looks like to you. That is if you’d rather be the one that leaves, or your wife is the one that leaves and you’re the one that stays. Just play about with those thoughts in your mind for a while. After all she's the one that had an affair and she’s the one who's called it quits, and then fecked with your heart and your mind.
Bob,
We have three children. I would rather not uproot them at this time. I intend to look for a modest little place to call home for myself, and move on.
As far as the affair, she feels that I broke up a friendship of a lifetime. He was a gay dude (didn't know at the time), and she truly enjoyed texting him all day. In a three month period, they exchanged over 16,000 txts.
My wife fails to see the damage, that giving another person that amount of attention, can do to a marriage.... Gay or not gay.
After that EA ended, my marriage was over.
Now my wife is reflecting and harping on every argument we ever had, and using it as a springboard to end our marriage.
This has been going on for a couple months.
This is the end of the line for us. Marriage is a two way street. if she doesn't feel enough desire to be with her husband, then I should accept the obvious, and move on.
I've made my decision. It's best I go.
Do you have a clue what might be going on in this woman's mind?
She's a wayward. Nothing she says will make sense logically.
My suggestion: DO NOT MOVE. If you guys divorce, thsi could effect the final agreement that a judge rules on.
Call up a lawyer today and get a consultation.
Stop engaging her. If she brings up past fights and justifies her reason for wanting out (and SHE WILL) DO NOT react. Just tell her, "Look I know you want to keep discussing this but I don't. There is nothing to say anymore since our marriage is over. I will not talk about this anymore."
KAPICHE.
DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT leave yoru home. SHE is the one who wants out, remember? SHE should be the one to leave.
Oh and, it shouldn't have to be said but I will anyway:
NO SEX. NO cuddling, no being there for her.
If she wanted to be with you, she would be and she is feeding you line after line after line that all = her wanting out.
Treat her like you treat a co-worker: cordial but all business.
She's a wayward. Nothing she says will make sense logically.
My suggestion: DO NOT MOVE. If you guys divorce, thsi could effect the final agreement that a judge rules on.
Call up a lawyer today and get a consultation.
Stop engaging her. If she brings up past fights and justifies her reason for wanting out (and SHE WILL) DO NOT react. Just tell her, "Look I know you want to keep discussing this but I don't. There is nothing to say anymore since our marriage is over. I will not talk about this anymore."
KAPICHE.
DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT leave yoru home. SHE is the one who wants out, remember? SHE should be the one to leave.
Oh and, it shouldn't have to be said but I will anyway:
NO SEX. NO cuddling, no being there for her.
If she wanted to be with you, she would be and she is feeding you line after line after line that all = her wanting out.
Treat her like you treat a co-worker: cordial but all business.
I think she's hell bent still on punishing you for breaking up that friendship and raining on her psuedo single life. She wants her gay guy for the EA and you for sex. Sorry it doesn't work that way. Total cake eating. She sounds like just another typical wayward now.
I think she's hell bent still on punishing you for breaking up that friendship and raining on her psuedo single life. She wants her gay guy for the EA and you for sex. Sorry it doesn't work that way. Total cake eating. She sounds like just another typical wayward now.
This is something I've been saying all along. I want to believe this is the case, in the worst way.
That would give me the closure I'm looking for. I can accept this.
Last night, her eyes showed me the anger, as soon as I mentioned the EA. She denied anything more than a friendship, but clearly showed the resentment.
Over the years, "punishing" was a word I used quite often to describe her behavior when she's angry at me.
She would say and do things in a way that I've never seen or heard from anyone else in my entire life. Her behavior was viscious, and her words would always be as hurtful as possible.
Her BIG thing over the years, was her accusing me of taking away things she would enjoy. For example: If her gym schedule interfered with our kid's school schedule, I told her she should change her schedule... I was taking something away from her.
She would get so spiteful, it's scary.
Her BIG thing over the years, was her accusing me of taking away things she would enjoy. For example: If her gym schedule interfered with our kid's school schedule, I told her she should change her schedule... I was taking something away from her.
She would get so spiteful, it's scary.
ok first...boo-f**king-hoo that her poor widdle gym schedule was messed up. I freaking WISH i had the time and the energy to have a real gym schedule instead of just cramming minutes in here and there.
sarcasm aside...when you told her she should change her schedule,HOW did you tell her? Tone,attitude,facial expressions,etc... was it a light suggestion of 'well honey the kids schedule is definitely something that can't be changed so we have to change the things we have control over like going to the gym.' or was it more like, "You need to change your gym schedule and accomodate our children's school schedule. I think their school related things are more important than you going to the gym.Prioritize your time."
one makes for a different response than the other. The first way,she may not accuse you of taking away things she enjoys because it wouldnt feel that way to her. the second way makes you the dictator of her life and her schedule thus putting her on defense and giving her ammo to say you're taking away things she enjoys.
ok first...boo-f**king-hoo that her poor widdle gym schedule was messed up. I freaking WISH i had the time and the energy to have a real gym schedule instead of just cramming minutes in here and there.
sarcasm aside...when you told her she should change her schedule,HOW did you tell her? Tone,attitude,facial expressions,etc... was it a light suggestion of 'well honey the kids schedule is definitely something that can't be changed so we have to change the things we have control over like going to the gym.' or was it more like, "You need to change your gym schedule and accomodate our children's school schedule. I think their school related things are more important than you going to the gym.Prioritize your time."
one makes for a different response than the other. The first way,she may not accuse you of taking away things she enjoys because it wouldnt feel that way to her. the second way makes you the dictator of her life and her schedule thus putting her on defense and giving her ammo to say you're taking away things she enjoys.
No, I made up that story. That was just an example.
One ACTUAL story was that I wouldn't ALLOW her to text with her EA.
Another, I'll take blame for this one...... She joined a local gym a couple years ago. It was a well known "hot spot", where men were having a field day picking up married women. A few friends of mine's wives actually quit the gym, because they couldn't take the blood hounds.
I told her I wasn't crazy about the place she chose, and I told her why. Of course, I was labeled a jealous maniac.
She eventually quit, but blamed me for it.
I'll take that one.... I just didn't feel comfortable with my wife there at the time. I let her know it, she didn't like it.
She quit, and she resented me for it.
Interpret this ladies.... 
No, I made up that story. That was just an example.
