I know this might not seem like much to others, but I'm frustrated.
It's coming upon our 5th Wedding Anniversary, and I was hoping just for "something".
He's slow on work now, so I made a hand-made ceramic votive for him, with my own money. I paid a fair bit to make it, put HOURS into painting it. I didn't want him to feel he had to pay a lot for our Anniversary, so I told him my present could be him stopping smoking (He always said he wanted to).
The problem is... I don't think he'll give it much effort, not the effort it deserves, and so I'll be left out of both an Anniversary present, AND the effort towards me it takes. (He WON'T volunteer to buy even a card or flowers if he fails, and needs a different gift- last year he gave me "permission" to buy myself flowers with his debit card).
He also now can't be bothered to help me put up the pool for me and Daughter (heavy inflatable type, I can't do myself)...So I volunteered to do the work of levelling the ground out, AND the cost of filling it ($125)...
I also don't think he's wanting to stop drinking, either.
Basically, in my mind, he's only wanting to do what HE wants...be DARNED what the wife or daughter wants.
He figures as long as the bills are paid, everything's fine