I am looking for a bit of advice from the Women on here.
I have been married now for 5 years happily with her. I am head over heals in love and this is my second marriage. Recently in the last two months she has been going out with her work friends once a week. These are male,female single and married.
When we were first married I had to cut off a lot of my ties with guy friends and she didn't want me going out a ton so I showed her the respect and have lost friends through it all. SO now she tosses when I ask her not to go that I need to find friends and a life.
Not a big deal going out once a week right? Here is where the issue lies. She comes home every time tipsy and drives home when I say to her 100 times I will pick you up. After seeing a phone number come through many times for multiple calls and texts while we were out I asked who this was.
She played this off as it was a girlfriend at work, and also even had the girlfriend call me from the number. So I was able to locate through a service who the number belonged to just to complete my nonsense of thinking she is speaking behind my back to someone. Well after searching I found the number was a man at her work that she works with. They had multiple conversations, she called him when I was out with her from the bathroom. She would get up to use the bathroom often and when I checked the phone records she was calling him or texting him. She also mentioned he kissed her in a drunken accident and pecked her. This to me seems to be where their conversation picked up more and more.
She threw a fit about me checking the phone records and she went out and bought a new cell phone that I can't track.
Now my wife had many many guy friends before I came along and she is a beautiful woman and gets compliments everywhere. This goober she was talking to was the exact opposite of what she would date. 100% out of her league and he was going through a divorce. She said she was just being an ear for this guy and they became friends through work and these outings.
Fast Forward now 2 months to now.
She cancelled the cell phone she bought roughly a week after buying it. I check the records and she doesn't talk to anyone really anymore and specially not this guy. She is home with me 6 nights a week and never off somewhere or late, or just AWOL.
She has been asking to go out with these people every week religously and I offered many times to just stop up and have a drink and she tells me I can't because these are her friends.
Do I have anything to worry about as her cheating on me? Sex with her is great, top notch 3-5 times a week and getting better with time. Cuddles every night with me and not giving me any weird signs.
Also can put this out there. I was a cheater in my previous marriage. And I suffering from delusions based on my history? Should I have left her when I found out about the guy? Every day it's hard for me to even hear her say I love you as I don't believe it.
Any insight on this would be helpful. Thanks. Sorry for the long read a lot of my mind as this is her every day week to go out.
I have been married now for 5 years happily with her. I am head over heals in love and this is my second marriage. Recently in the last two months she has been going out with her work friends once a week. These are male,female single and married.
When we were first married I had to cut off a lot of my ties with guy friends and she didn't want me going out a ton so I showed her the respect and have lost friends through it all. SO now she tosses when I ask her not to go that I need to find friends and a life.
Not a big deal going out once a week right? Here is where the issue lies. She comes home every time tipsy and drives home when I say to her 100 times I will pick you up. After seeing a phone number come through many times for multiple calls and texts while we were out I asked who this was.
She played this off as it was a girlfriend at work, and also even had the girlfriend call me from the number. So I was able to locate through a service who the number belonged to just to complete my nonsense of thinking she is speaking behind my back to someone. Well after searching I found the number was a man at her work that she works with. They had multiple conversations, she called him when I was out with her from the bathroom. She would get up to use the bathroom often and when I checked the phone records she was calling him or texting him. She also mentioned he kissed her in a drunken accident and pecked her. This to me seems to be where their conversation picked up more and more.
She threw a fit about me checking the phone records and she went out and bought a new cell phone that I can't track.
Now my wife had many many guy friends before I came along and she is a beautiful woman and gets compliments everywhere. This goober she was talking to was the exact opposite of what she would date. 100% out of her league and he was going through a divorce. She said she was just being an ear for this guy and they became friends through work and these outings.
Fast Forward now 2 months to now.
She cancelled the cell phone she bought roughly a week after buying it. I check the records and she doesn't talk to anyone really anymore and specially not this guy. She is home with me 6 nights a week and never off somewhere or late, or just AWOL.
She has been asking to go out with these people every week religously and I offered many times to just stop up and have a drink and she tells me I can't because these are her friends.
Do I have anything to worry about as her cheating on me? Sex with her is great, top notch 3-5 times a week and getting better with time. Cuddles every night with me and not giving me any weird signs.
Also can put this out there. I was a cheater in my previous marriage. And I suffering from delusions based on my history? Should I have left her when I found out about the guy? Every day it's hard for me to even hear her say I love you as I don't believe it.
Any insight on this would be helpful. Thanks. Sorry for the long read a lot of my mind as this is her every day week to go out.