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Old 06-22-2011, 12:07 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I Am a guy,Would like to hear why so many of us men hear of other men that thier wife does not like oral sex performed on them.I my case wife just wants a slam-Bam and go about your day.You can't get settel in for a good session. At times I offer oral only and she turns it down. Bad thing is I think I am pretty good at it.What do you think?
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"Snuffle" "snuffle"... something off down below!
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Old 06-22-2011, 12:16 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I have heard of these kind of women but don't understand them.

Some people just aren't into it.

To me, if a guy won't do it, it's a dealbreaker. And yes, people should reciprocate.
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Religious objections? Nicki Henrickson in "Big Love" was disgusted by it. I doubt they made her character up out of nothing.
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Many women think their privates are ugly. I think mine are and I am not sure why. In my case it may be a combination of religion and the shame heaped on women who are sexual in this society.

I remember in Catholic grade school nun's lecturing for hrs on how sinful we girls were. And how we were sinful if we wore clothes or acted in any way to draw the attention of the boys. The thing about patent leather shoes is true. We were made to feel ugly and evil and at fault for any inappropriate sexual advances by the boys.

Did your wife have a strict religious upbringing? has she been shamed or repressed in any way.
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I Am a guy,Would like to hear why so many of us men hear of other men that thier wife does not like oral sex performed on them.I my case wife just wants a slam-Bam and go about your day.You can't get settel in for a good session. At times I offer oral only and she turns it down. Bad thing is I think I am pretty good at it.What do you think?
Doesn't have to be a bad thing.
I'm not a big fan of getting oral, doesn't do much for me; but don't mind at all giving it.
It's all about personal preferences I think.
Slam-Bam is of course not so good; try something else
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I Am a guy,Would like to hear why so many of us men hear of other men that thier wife does not like oral sex performed on them.I my case wife just wants a slam-Bam and go about your day.You can't get settel in for a good session. At times I offer oral only and she turns it down. Bad thing is I think I am pretty good at it.What do you think?
I 'sometimes' say no, it isn't that I don't LIKE it, but at times, there is no way in that setting, moment or amount of time alloted am I going to get to orgasm...that is just frustrating, my no usually means not right now, as opposed to not ever.
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Old 06-22-2011, 01:05 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I Am a guy,Would like to hear why so many of us men hear of other men that thier wife does not like oral sex performed on them.I my case wife just wants a slam-Bam and go about your day.You can't get settel in for a good session. At times I offer oral only and she turns it down. Bad thing is I think I am pretty good at it.What do you think?
A few reasons could be in play (some of them in the same woman even):

* Maybe it just doesn't feel that great to her. During certain times of the month it either feels too sensitive or not sensitive enough. Maybe it has never felt anything more than ticklish or slightly irritating - everybody is different in how it feels and what they like.

* Maybe she does feel uncomfortable during a particular time because of her upbringing or yeah, maybe she didn't get to take a shower.

* If your relationship has been rocky, she may not feel like letting you do something so intimate to her.

You should respect what your wife is saying about her preferences. Doing otherwise may cause her to develop even more of an aversion toward the act and maybe toward you too.
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I could look at a woman's vagina all day. Not a huge ran of a shaved bare look though.
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Old 06-22-2011, 01:12 PM   #10 (permalink)
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^ I think of the missus like this:

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_6sYA7Iz1xg...legs+-+eml.jpg

Fangs represent her erm... 'yes'. The first two legs, represents well, her TWO LEGS

*suckle suckle suckle*
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Sorry I CAN'T take this thread seriously lol
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Old 06-22-2011, 02:54 PM   #11 (permalink)
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^ What in the hell? LOL
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Old 06-22-2011, 03:00 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I am a great example of what happens when an innocent bad boy meets a seemingly hot good girl, only to have her rock his world around to the point he ends up waking up one morning going "Oh sh-t I'm married!" And the seemingly "good girl" turned out to be a nymphomaniac who the bad boy himself can't even handle. BE A MAN everyone says too! How cruel!

Sorry I'm just taking the piss outta my life lol

EDIT: Awww crap! I posted an extra post from the magic number! Bah!
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What is this magic # you keep talking about???
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although i loved the praise about my nether regions he would give me whenever he did it. it felt great but i always had a mental block preventing me from truly enjoying it.
I , too , used to have a mental blockage, he used to always want to do this & my mind would go into overdrive, the whole time I am laying there thinking "How in god's name can he possibly enjoy this?", I used to push his head away.

Thinking back on this now, these are some of my fondest memories where he showed a surge of heavy desire . For me, I was just too religiously repressed to believe this was "normal" sexuality, I looked at it "dirty" therefore it messed with my mind AND my enjoyment of it . I also remember back then, I was highly sensitive -almost too much to endure.

Now that my mind is OPEN & willingly receptive to all things sexual, I have come out of this 100%, and can enjoy it -alot , infact I would be UPSET if he didn't want to do it now , even though I can rarely cum from it.

I did a complete turn around in this area.
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Old 06-22-2011, 03:40 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Some women feel that if they receive it, then they must return the favor. So they just may not want it because they are not in the mood to return it.
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