My wife has expressed that i need to do more in terms of emotional support. I can understand the term if someone is going through trauma or a particular significant event, but I'm not sure what that means in the "everyday life" sense.
I tried probing several times to understand but she didn't really give me much. Im trying to get ladies views on this and I understand that each person may have their own individual interpretation but perhaps some collective input would help me understand a but more. This is impacting our marriage in a huge way. One request is to please try and be as specific as possible maybe throw in some examples ( a general answer like, emotional support means that you get her, doesn't help me much
Emotional support examples are:
Showing interest in how she feels by asking questions...
"How was your day?"
"Can I help you with anything?"
Paying attention to her natural cues and letting you know you recognize them and care about them...
"You look stressed out. I don't want you to feel that way."
"I don't like it when you feel disconnected from me. I want to connect with you."
Taking action to make her feel good is a way of connecting too...
~Buying her a small gift that you know she'd like for no reason and then commenting when she smiles that you love to see her smile or comment that you just want her to be happy.
~Telling her you'd like to go for a walk together and unwind.
~Do something you don't normally do to surprise her and give her a smile when she is delightfully surprised.
*Granted, this all has to be reciprocated by her. If she takes advantage of your care, commitment and showing of affection then she's dealing with a problem that I would guess has more to do with herself and how she feels rather than her connection with you. In other words, she's not in a place where she can connect.