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Old 10-30-2008, 11:25 AM   #1 (permalink)
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My wife and I are going on our first date since our new start this Sat. I can do the same old dinner and a movie but would like to really blow her away. Ladies please help me! (guys too!) Any suggestions for the date of the century??? We live in the Seattle area if that helps.
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Congrats on rebuilding things! A date is a great way to start. What about going to see a comedy show? It's more interactive than a movie, and I'm sure there are some good spots in Seattle. Or, go bowling or something. Something besides sitting silently in a dark theater.

I don't know that you need to make it the date of the century - just go and have some fun together. Takes a little pressure off. :-)

Good luck and have fun!
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have you seen the film sleepless in seattle.
theres an idea and its based on a movie. so thats your movie!
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Any suggestions for the date of the century??? We live in the Seattle area if that helps.
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good! dare nigts really open things up. good luck!

date of the century? go down to the Narrows bridge and climb up on the suspension spans and walk up them to the top (noooo, i'm kidding, but i did it with my first wife in 1981. got arrested! none of her previous boyfriends did it, though)

don't even try to make it a "date of the century" though. it wont work and you're setting yourself up for disappointment. just ENJOY YOURSELF! your date will want to see YOU having FUN.

the comedy club thing is a great suggestion. or try this: is "GET SMART" still in theaters up there? go to that. it's stupid, brainless comedy. i laughed the whole way through it. but that's just me.

oh, and watch it with alcohol. nasty things can happen.
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Thanks for the ideas...it has been suggested that we go ice skating which I liked that idea. What do you ladies think about that? A movie doesn't promote talking so I want to avoid that...after all our problems started because we didn't talk. I guess I shouldn't have said date of the century...just wanted some ideas out of the same ol boring stuff.
V great idea but I DO NOT like heights...I'd end up needing the fire dept to rescue me...not very manly having the fire dept on your date!
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i've heard the exact same thing about why NOT to go to a movie. ice skating yes! seattle area, where'd you find ice? i usta live in south tacoma and we had a couple of cool rinks.

i did not want to read in the news about how some lovestruck dum dum climbed narrows bridge...thanks!!
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Married people still date?

Go to the space needle and have dinner up there? Wouldn't it be romantic-like? Never been to Seattle, unfortunately.
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Go to the space needle and have dinner up there? Wouldn't it be romantic-like? Never been to Seattle, unfortunately.
the restaurant up there used to be 5 star. it's a little touristy now. it's cool too, it makes one revolution per hour, giving you a 360 degree view of the puget sound in an hour.
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My wife and I date every week. Once you are married you can't let dating go. You need to keep from falling into the mundane.

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Old 10-30-2008, 11:05 PM   #10 (permalink)
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..it has been suggested that we go ice skating which I liked that idea. What do you ladies think about that?
I dont like going ice skating on 'first dates' b/c i cant dress very flirty, and i get bored going in circles.

something fun is swing dancing. i dont know about seattle but a couple of the states ive lived in have clubs that do lessons prior to the dancing. i dont know if that's too much for a 'first date.'

it really just depends on what she likes. but i agree with others that you shouldnt try to blow her out of the water. just show her your fun side, and that you are interested in her again and want to get to know her, in a flirty kinda mysterious sort of way.
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Old 10-30-2008, 11:59 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Well if it is not to cold there or rainy, How about a nice Picnic on the beach? If your lucky it will be a clear night with a bright moon.

But get a bottle of wine, some nice sandwiches or other picnic type food, some glasses, A blanket.

Can you have a fire ont he beach? Maybe wine over a fire?

Think outside of the box.
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good stuff! picnic on the beach! how close are you guys to south puget sound? there is a romantic driftwood coated sandy beach at ther ferry in steilacoom. it's beautiful there. then take her on a walk at western state hospital on steilacoom lake. perfect for halloween! you can be two little kids! want directions? PM me!
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For me personally anything too romantic on a date like this one would be too much. It would feel like things were moving too fast.
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For me personally anything too romantic on a date like this one would be too much. It would feel like things were moving too fast.
i'm in the same situation. so as nov 10th approaches (day of our next "date") remind me of what you said in this post...

but...

take I5 south to the steilacoom dupont exit, go west off the offramp (should be a right) then drive several miles thru the most beautiful forest you'll ever see. the trees cover the roadway, blocking out al the moonlight. that road will spit you out righ at the ferry dock. park, get out, gather some driftwood, check your pocket to make sure you brought your lighter...walk down to the beach, and light your campfire. you'll probably have a few lookie loo's checking you out. the ferry goes out to the prison on the island. you'll see the lights. may encounter a train rolling along the sound. it's pretty down there.

when you're done there on the beach, hike back to the car, hop in and drive north on steilacoom blvd. look for the cross street named "lakes blvd." when you cross that intersection you're almost there, you'll see an industrial looking building on your left. that's the "new" western state hospital (asylum). across the street (on your right) there's a big old field. it'll turn into a park, with softball fields visible at the intersection, take a right where the softball fields are, that'll take you to the entrance to the park where steilacoom lake is at, there are walking trails that lead up the hil to the "old" delapidated western state hospital is at. haunting! fun! where a kid can be a kid!

do me a favor. this is where my old girlfriend and i used to go. this is the girl that just recently "showed up" in my life after 26 years. i passed on any potential advances by her, no worries. anyway, one of "our" songs, play it for me:

YouTube - Skid Row-I Remember You

she was such a romantic. she asked me to make a choice between her and my soon to be (at the time) first wife. i chose to go with my bride across the country to take my first radio gig. 26 years ago! Lane told me "if things don't work out, or even if they do, you'd better hire a detective and find me and let me know how you are." this was the only girl, other than my wife, that i ever loved

anyway,play it for lane miller, this one's for you. how things could've been. maybe something gets ignited for you two!
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Thanks for the ideas...it has been suggested that we go ice skating which I liked that idea. What do you ladies think about that? A movie doesn't promote talking so I want to avoid that...after all our problems started because we didn't talk. I guess I shouldn't have said date of the century...just wanted some ideas out of the same ol boring stuff.
V great idea but I DO NOT like heights...I'd end up needing the fire dept to rescue me...not very manly having the fire dept on your date!
yeh but its not something youwould forget then

ah you wil find what is right for you.
i hope you have a lovely time.
but i agree staying away from something i. e the movie that you felt was a problem before.
i like that analysis of yourself. thats progress
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