Is this a big deal? I need some perspective.
Hi, I'm new here but I need some perspective. I didn't think this was a big deal but my new husband does and I need to know if I'm really missing something. Basically we were moving this weekend and finally finished yesterday. We were both tired and decided to stay in last night, just watching movies and having some wine. He had more to drink and fell asleep on the couch- I couldn't get him to come upstairs. I didn't want to leave him there and I wasn't sure if he would feel sick in the middle of the night, so I stayed there until he woke up at three and we went to bed. That's all fine, I had no issue with that. I even woke up to take care of the dog at 6 (he's a puppy so he can't hold it through the night) and find his phone when his alarm started going off (he forgot to turn it off).
At 7:45 he woke me up and said he was hungry and he wanted me to go make breakfast. I said I was really tired and I wanted to sleep a little more- until 8:30, then I would go make breakfast. He said I wouldn't get up then, I said my alarm was set and I was up really late so I would just like to sleep a little longer. He said that he was really hungry. We just moved in but I knew he bought yogurt and granola yesterday, so I told him to have some yogurt and I would be up in an hour to make breakfast. I woke up at 8:45 and said, hey I'll make breakfast now, you still want the two eggs and the turkey bacon?
He now tells me never mind, he's never going to ask me to do anything again because I don't care about him. He tells me I don't perform any wifely duties and I obviously wasn't ready to get married. He's really mad. I tried to explain to him that it wasn't that I didn't care, it's that I was tired from taking care of him the night before, waking up for the dog and all that, and I knew he had enough food for a snack. I knew he would be fine for the hour, so I thought it was okay. He's seriously really mad though. I'm really trying to wrap my head around this because I'm not trying to cause problems. If I was wrong I want to understand and fix it, but I didn't think this was a big deal either way- certainly not something to cause him to tell me he can't count on me. I really need some help and perspective.