Re: feeling sad
One of my closest girlfriends has explained frienships like this ( or similar)-- she would do this better than me...if you chop a tree down and look at the stump, you will notice many circles around each other, she would tell me FRIENDS are like this..
Your closest friends, the ones who treat you like family, who you can share everything with, call all hours of the night, they have seen you at your worst & still love you, those are in the bulleye of the stump.
Then you have other friends you see at church, at work, you confide in them but they don't see the DIRT, you at your worst, as the rings get looser & looser on that stump, so is many others - to where we would call them "acquaintences" now -not necessarily friends.
Then we all have some SPECIAL people may come into our lives for a only a SEASON, they were there for us when we needed , but now they have moved on to new friends, another place, but this is OK, as we can also.
I had a best best best girlfriend in my youth, I thought we would always be that tight, it was harder ON ME when we grew apart than her, at least I felt it was. But you know, she was there for me when I needed her the most, that season of my difficult teen years, until I met my husband/then boyfriend. I will always treasure those times, and now we have Facebook to still keep in touch, but it will NEVER be what is was.
But this is OK.
I think it is good to never burn bridges with friends, even if we do loose touch, they move on, yes, it hurts a little , maybe ALOT, but this world is filled with others with similar struggles as yourself. The challenge is to find them and Hook up !
One of my girlfriends made friends in a chat room , then they started calling each other, and she flys states away to visit this woman almost every year, met her family, her friends, everything. I thought that was a little crazy but still it happened. Once she came here & I met her.
With the advent of the internet, I think we could find many many others like ourselves, to share and be heard & understood. Just as it is more of a playgroud for affairs (a BAD thing) , it can be a open door to many new same sex connections. (A good thing!).