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post #46 of 62 (permalink) Old 01-03-2017, 06:56 PM
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Alright, everyone's homework is to grab your partner's hand, lead them to the couch, and sit and tell them "I just want to make out for a bit, sweetie! This is not a prelude to sex, it is just for the joy of kissing."


For some reason, I can't do this. Or, if I do, I feel frustrated. Kissing for any length of time makes me want sex really bad.

If my husband kisses me, and pushes into my lips with a little bit of pressure; I feel it right away in my clit.

Maybe 'cause we have sex so infrequently now, kissing without sex just seems impossible, or too much of a tease.

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My wife and I rarely kiss beyond a peck. Nearly no kissing during sex. I honestly don't know if it's because I'm bad at it or because she's just like that.

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I missed kissing with my ex, and she definitely liked it originally. I don't buy they, they are bad at it so I don't do it. Kissing is emotional. And you should fix that ****. If you don't kiss and you are the reason, it's cause you don't feel that connection not because he or she is a bad kisser.
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I love kissing and my wife hasn't kissed me in ages.
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Agreed. Really intimate kissing is too arousing, too frustrating if you can't have sex, especially if you haven't had sex in a long time.



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For some reason, I can't do this. Or, if I do, I feel frustrated. Kissing for any length of time makes me want sex really bad.

If my husband kisses me, and pushes into my lips with a little bit of pressure; I feel it right away in my clit.

Maybe 'cause we have sex so infrequently now, kissing without sex just seems impossible, or too much of a tease.
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My wife and I rarely kiss beyond a peck. Nearly no kissing during sex. I honestly don't know if it's because I'm bad at it or because she's just like that.
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I missed kissing with my ex, and she definitely liked it originally. I don't buy they, they are bad at it so I don't do it. Kissing is emotional. And you should fix that ****. If you don't kiss and you are the reason, it's cause you don't feel that connection not because he or she is a bad kisser.
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I love kissing and my wife hasn't kissed me in ages.


The only piece of advice that I have; which you probably know about it already, so this is likely redundant; but here goes:

Is your dental hygiene well maintained?

I don't say this in a snarky, insulting way; not at all.

But I think you are all guys? For some reason, a lot of guys stop going to the dentist very early in life; like their early 20's or even late teens.

I get it if you don't have insurance. But if you do; go to the dentist. Even if it's only once every two years.

You cannot remove tartar with even the best sonic toothbrush. It has to be scraped off with professional dentist tools that you cannot buy without a license (I know, I've looked around on the internet).

Any type of gum disease will begin to impart a bad odor to your mouth. You have to get gum disease seen to as early as possible.

The fillings you got in your youth? By your mid-30's, or thereabouts, they will begin to need replacing. Cracks form around the filling, and decay sets in around the tooth. Decay smells bad.

There seems to be a perception amongst men that dental hygiene is "sissy" in some way. I can't understand it.

You all deserve and need to go to the dentist. If you can't afford it; some vocational schools where dental assisting is taught, will offer very low cost cleanings.


I know that some women have bad oral hygiene too. But with guys it's almost like a weird badge-of-honor to not have to go to the dentist???


If this isn't your problem; sorry. It's the only reason I can think of to not wanna kiss your husband; his mouth smells like turds.


And a lot of gals don't like wet, sloppy kisses. I personally think those are nice; well, nice wet slippery ones. So, I don't know why it's a turn off? If you look like you've got egg-white coming out the side of your mouth; sure, that's nasty. But otherwise, I don't see the drawback.


Another random guess; are any of you following an Atkins or paleo type diet? The diet where you avoid carbohydrate and eat a lot of meat and cheese---that kind of thing?

If you are in ketosis, your breath will smell bad. You have to swish water in your mouth and use sugar free mints. I don't follow those diets myself. But I've had family members who did. Whew!!

Stay [reasonably] hydrated. If your mouth feels dry and sticky, it probably smells stale, at least. Think of the beach at low tide. Think of the difference in smell when it's high tide. I've always noticed this. A dried out beach stinks really bad. Not much of an odor at high tide. I know that's not an exact analogy. Hope it makes the point.


Again, I don't know any of you. Maybe you floss and brush and gargle and have been to the dentist in the last couple of years. Just throwing this stuff out there as the only thing I can think of.




And, sadly, lack of sexual desire on your spouses part trumps everything else. You could have the smile of a Crest toothpaste model, and it wouldn't matter if your SO wants to avoid sex with you at all costs And as I said upthread, kissing for me is the front door to sex. Avoiding kissing *is* a good way to avoid any possibility of sex
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The only piece of advice that I have; which you probably know about it already, so this is likely redundant; but here goes:

Is your dental hygiene well maintained?

I don't say this in a snarky, insulting way; not at all.

But I think you are all guys? For some reason, a lot of guys stop going to the dentist very early in life; like their early 20's or even late teens.

I get it if you don't have insurance. But if you do; go to the dentist. Even if it's only once every two years.

You cannot remove tartar with even the best sonic toothbrush. It has to be scraped off with professional dentist tools that you cannot buy without a license (I know, I've looked around on the internet).

Any type of gum disease will begin to impart a bad odor to your mouth. You have to get gum disease seen to as early as possible.

The fillings you got in your youth? By your mid-30's, or thereabouts, they will begin to need replacing. Cracks form around the filling, and decay sets in around the tooth. Decay smells bad.

There seems to be a perception amongst men that dental hygiene is "sissy" in some way. I can't understand it.

You all deserve and need to go to the dentist. If you can't afford it; some vocational schools where dental assisting is taught, will offer very low cost cleanings.


I know that some women have bad oral hygiene too. But with guys it's almost like a weird badge-of-honor to not have to go to the dentist???


If this isn't your problem; sorry. It's the only reason I can think of to not wanna kiss your husband; his mouth smells like turds.


And a lot of gals don't like wet, sloppy kisses. I personally think those are nice; well, nice wet slippery ones. So, I don't know why it's a turn off? If you look like you've got egg-white coming out the side of your mouth; sure, that's nasty. But otherwise, I don't see the drawback.


Another random guess; are any of you following an Atkins or paleo type diet? The diet where you avoid carbohydrate and eat a lot of meat and cheese---that kind of thing?

If you are in ketosis, your breath will smell bad. You have to swish water in your mouth and use sugar free mints. I don't follow those diets myself. But I've had family members who did. Whew!!

Stay [reasonably] hydrated. If your mouth feels dry and sticky, it probably smells stale, at least. Think of the beach at low tide. Think of the difference in smell when it's high tide. I've always noticed this. A dried out beach stinks really bad. Not much of an odor at high tide. I know that's not an exact analogy. Hope it makes the point.


Again, I don't know any of you. Maybe you floss and brush and gargle and have been to the dentist in the last couple of years. Just throwing this stuff out there as the only thing I can think of.




And, sadly, lack of sexual desire on your spouses part trumps everything else. You could have the smile of a Crest toothpaste model, and it wouldn't matter if your SO wants to avoid sex with you at all costs And as I said upthread, kissing for me is the front door to sex. Avoiding kissing *is* a good way to avoid any possibility of sex
I smoke. That's a big turn off to my wife. But I smoke because she has denied me sex and I started again out of frustration.
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Lol to bad hygiene. I think it slowed down with us due to other reasons. I brush twice a day, floss and shower. I am cleanly and I smell like roses!
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I smoke. That's a big turn off to my wife. But I smoke because she has denied me sex and I started again out of frustration.

I'm sorry, that's terrible. I've only smoked briefly, and I understand how it can be very calming.

Maybe you could smoke American Spirit brand? It's organic tobacco with none of the bazillion harmful additives that almost all commercial cigarettes have.



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Lol to bad hygiene. I think it slowed down with us due to other reasons. I brush twice a day, floss and shower. I am cleanly and I smell like roses!

Yes, it's probably for other reasons.


I just presented it as one slim possibility. And once you've eliminated all the possibilities, you get closer to the truth.

And it's probably always better to know the truth; even when it's not a pleasant truth.

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Great thread. I love kissing and have been doing it with passion since before I could walk.

It is also possibly a factor in why so many women came to my bed.

All of them commented favorably on my kissing regardless if sex occurred or not.

Literally just a couple moments of kissing Mrs. Conan and she is dripping wet. It causes me to rise to the occasion rather quickly as well.

I love kissing!💋
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Good thread. I haven't made out with my husband in some time. Now that I'm aware, I will make it a point to get some more smooches in.
I think increasing the make out seasons will also help with the issue of "I feel like roommates", that plague many marriages.

I agree with @notmyrealname4 . Mouth hygiene is everything. My husband hasn't been to the dentist in forever. He needs to increase the frequency of brushing/flossing because his breath smells faster between brushes. Also my husband gets home late and exhausted and ends up going straight to bed without showering, or brushing his teeth. Barf, grosses me out. But he is just trying to survive on these days so I don't nag.
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Kissing is amazing!

My H says that the reason he is with me today is because of our first kiss.
We reminisce about it often...I was the good girl, he was the bad boy and I think I just really surprised him by piquing his interest and then making out with him that night over 25 years ago. He never looked back.

I hadn't kissed very many other guys but enough to know that my H was a great kisser.

We did a lot of kissing in those three years that we dated before marriage. Especially since we waited to have sex until we got married.

We still love kissing!
(But I'm really glad we don't have to shut it down anymore when things get heated. )
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He was making us dinner last night. I went up and kissed him. He stopped with the food, turning his attention to me and we kissed gently. No part of our bodies touching at first. Slowly more touch and the intimate smell of his cologne combined to be intoxicating. Then we agreed dinner was needed... and he continued cooking.

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Absolutely love deep-kissing with my partner. In fact, I was probably the worst kisser in the world until a gal that I was preengaged to in college diligently worked with me and made me do it until I got it right! She was a preeminent master of the deep kiss!

Ever since then, well let's just say that it doesn't necessarily take very much of that to get this old fart's batteries fully charged!

"Kissing and telling" here, but my first W was absolutely terrible at it, but the sex was fairly decent! Only until later in the marriage when, it too, went South!

My RSXW was much better at kissing but was otherwise an absolute knockout with her physical gyrations in the boudoir!

Too damned bad that I wasn't exactly the sole beneficiary of all of that!

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