My wife and I rarely kiss beyond a peck. Nearly no kissing during sex. I honestly don't know if it's because I'm bad at it or because she's just like that.
I missed kissing with my ex, and she definitely liked it originally. I don't buy they, they are bad at it so I don't do it. Kissing is emotional. And you should fix that ****. If you don't kiss and you are the reason, it's cause you don't feel that connection not because he or she is a bad kisser.
I love kissing and my wife hasn't kissed me in ages.
The only piece of advice that I have; which you probably know about it already, so this is likely redundant; but here goes:
Is your dental hygiene well maintained?
I don't say this in a snarky, insulting way; not at all.
But I think you are all guys? For some reason, a lot of guys stop going to the dentist very early in life; like their early 20's or even late teens.
I get it if you don't have insurance. But if you do; go to the dentist. Even if it's only once every two years.
You cannot remove tartar with even the best sonic toothbrush. It has to be scraped off with professional dentist tools that you cannot buy without a license (I know, I've looked around on the internet).
Any type of gum disease will begin to impart a bad odor to your mouth. You have to get gum disease seen to as early as possible.
The fillings you got in your youth? By your mid-30's, or thereabouts, they will begin to need replacing. Cracks form around the filling, and decay sets in around the tooth. Decay smells bad.
There seems to be a perception amongst men that dental hygiene is "sissy" in some way. I can't understand it.
You all deserve and need to go to the dentist. If you can't afford it; some vocational schools where dental assisting is taught, will offer very low cost cleanings.
I know that some women have bad oral hygiene too. But with guys it's almost like a weird badge-of-honor to not have to go to the dentist???
If this isn't your problem; sorry. It's the only reason I can think of to not wanna kiss your husband; his mouth smells like turds.
And a lot of gals don't like wet, sloppy kisses. I personally think those are nice; well, nice wet slippery ones. So, I don't know why it's a turn off? If you look like you've got egg-white coming out the side of your mouth; sure, that's nasty. But otherwise, I don't see the drawback.
Another random guess; are any of you following an Atkins or paleo type diet? The diet where you avoid carbohydrate and eat a lot of meat and cheese---that kind of thing?
If you are in ketosis, your breath will smell bad. You have to swish water in your mouth and use sugar free mints. I don't follow those diets myself. But I've had family members who did. Whew!!
Stay [reasonably] hydrated. If your mouth feels dry and sticky, it probably smells stale, at least. Think of the beach at low tide. Think of the difference in smell when it's high tide. I've always noticed this. A dried out beach stinks really bad. Not much of an odor at high tide. I know that's not an exact analogy. Hope it makes the point.
Again, I don't know any of you. Maybe you floss and brush and gargle and have been to the dentist in the last couple of years. Just throwing this stuff out there as the only thing I can think of.
And, sadly, lack of sexual desire on your spouses part trumps everything else. You could have the smile of a Crest toothpaste model, and it wouldn't matter if your SO wants to avoid sex with you at all costs
And as I said upthread, kissing for me is the front door to sex. Avoiding kissing *is* a good way to avoid any possibility of sex